Coming To A Realization

[Wyattholliday]

PMon.. you're sort of making my exact point and are really in agreement with me. You've been in this 4 years and you can think of 6. 48 months and 6 stand our . How many ladies are on here? How many have come and gone ? And 6. That's my point if you read the OP.. 10%. But no ones answered one of my original questions: If you didn't call her or text her and offer her money for an appointment for the next 6 months.. would you ever get a call or a PM or a text out of the blue to ask how YOU are doing? Just because and not because she was down on her luck and needed money.

I think your answer to that determines your outlook in the hobby. There are GREAT ladies that I've met in the last 9 months. Created some memories I'll have for a long time. But I'm learning to never lose sight of the fact that to 90% of providers , I'm not Wyatt.. I'm Benjamin Franklin

[jeffro5024]

Well said Wyatt even if they seem to care it's usually some kind of scheme. I started in 2008 my first provider was awesome. Then she retired out of the biz on me. She kept in touch even after she retired. Ever since not so good. Dallas you rock and I sure want to see you someday.

[Raymond Marshall]

Dallas, you make such great sense! You truly are a girl I could easily fall for, your real, your honest and your so in tune!

[suckaforlove]

100% true. Well said.

[Pmon]

Wyatt, I wasn't in disagreement with you. Just sharing my own experiences, which are probably the result of a different style of hobbying than a lot of guys. I'm not a high volume hobbyist and I work hard at finding ladies that I click with. The half dozen or so exceptional ones I mentioned account for 75% of my dates. Since I'm a regular, it's not unusual to stay in touch outside of visits. I will admit that in order to find the good ones I have had my share of dates with ladies that couldn't give a flip about me once I walk out of the room. But all in all, I've made some good friends here, a couple of exceptional ones in fact. So it's worth it.

[looking4justtonight]

Wyatt,

Brother...you just described most women...lol

How many dates costing thousands of dollars and all getting you nohere have you been on?

It's true...money cannot buy real intimacy, but hey just like in the Matrix...ignorance is bliss!

I will agree that you are not special to a provider and honestly if you are seeing 30-40 providers they are obviously not special to you either.

Crazy...crazy...crazy!

[Wyattholliday]

Looking.. I'm an A personality man.. when I do something I go all out. Only way to do it is to do it right with all ya got. Truly find out what's there.. what's all the hype about? Well.. I've given it all I have and willing to give and hence the post "Coming To A Realization". There's some things settling in.. truth being realized.. outflows of those realizations presenting themselves.. but that's another post :-)

[fredtheenigma]

Good to read the review leo57 just did on Makala. That's the beginning of a relationship that appears to be a lasting one with the connection we all hope for. Looks like she's up there with the 10% that care about a client just as Dallas does.

[Pmon]

Originally Posted by Wyattholliday

I actually had an ECCIE provider who would only schedule hour appointments and 20 minutes in asked me if I was going to come soon? And the words literally came out of her mouth: "I'm not going to let anyone just fuck me for an hour!" Well then what the fuck do you force me to schedule an hour appointment for? Oh and it's one pop only. Oh that's right.. because you care about the BENJAMINS!

I wish there was a way for guys to identify providers who fall into the "30 minute max" category, whether it's because they don't have the endurance, attitude, chemistry, or maybe they don't provide decent value at their 60 minute rate. That's not a criticism of a provider by any means. Before I found a UTR where I live, my go-to was a great gal, but definitely a 30 minute date max.

By the way, I never answered the original question here. Yes, I've had three providers contact me out of the blue for no other reason than to say hi. Two are retired, and I still hear from them on occasion. The third is a sweetheart in your fair city.

[Sarah Renee]

I don't check in with the gents I see ONLY because 99% are married and once I have seen them I delete all their ECCIE info and messages. I will talk if they call or text, but I worry about making first contact. I don't want to get anyine in trouble

Those who know me, know I don't habe to do this. I just have a addiction to seeing how long I can keep Mr Southerner up and active. Or my favorite... seeing him do pushups from engaging, relaxing, engaging... Nothing like having Mr S grow in my mouth.

I am going to start asking if it is okay to send messages from time to time just to say hi.

[Raymond Marshall]

That is so thoughtful! Your always welcome to write me! Your so special and kind!

[biggestbubba]

This is a hobby site, not a dating site. One should not come here looking for deep, loving relationships, they should attend church socials for that. Providers don't have to, and generally shouldn't, contact the men to see "what's up." They do this because it is their job, and that is how they support themselves, so unless you want to pay her to check in on you on a regular basis, you have no complaint. Never lose sight of the fact that the "I" in "IOP" stands for "illusion", which means it's not real. And your realization that they do it for the money? I don't even know what to say to that, but "duh" comes to mind; would you regularly go to your job if you never got paid, just because you loved it so much? All the realizations you have come to after your 9 months of hobbying are things you should have intuitively known before entering the hobby. I don't know why so many are slapping you on the back for your insight, it's not insight, it's just obvious.

[southeasternvixen]

I agree with Dallas. I try to stay in contact with all my gents. Some more than others but some people click better than others. I highly encourage my new clients to text me or talk to me on the phone when schedules permit so we can form a connection and start breaking ice before we meet. Definitely kills the awkwardness. I have a two regulars that come to mind in particular that would hate for escorts to text them or communicate if they didn't initiate it first. Both of which gave me permission to communicate freely when I choose. I try to learn schedules, when to text or call, as to not change or cause conflict in their personal lives. Many of my reviews say I'm great and easy to talk to, one definitely says I'm talkative. But hey this is me and everyone is not the same. Some like it, some don't

[Hot Summer]

My 2 cents ! I enjoy what I do, but I'm not out here taking all this risk for fun only .. money is why we are all here babe, However i have made a few friends in my few years of doing this...But its a real hard task to keep up with the small Talk.....I'd let you spend the day with my phone to see if you think you could keep up without going crazy! lol

[Makayla of Missouri]

Originally Posted by fredtheenigma

Good to read the review leo57 just did on Makala. That's the beginning of a relationship that appears to be a lasting one with the connection we all hope for. Looks like she's up there with the 10% that care about a client just as Dallas does.

Very astute observation!! Life is definitely VERY stressful given the traumatic and horrific events of July in my personal life.... but we manage to chat here and there and will no doubt keep in better contact after I'm settled in my personal life again.

That being said, it takes the consistent efforts of you gents in order for us providers to have that "hand up" we need after tragedy strikes our lives (as it eventually strikes all of us at one point or another). I DEFINITELY try to have a slightly different dynamic with my gents than many providers. Clean home, ambiance, personality, etc... and this is one of my trademarks. I'm not SOLELY in this for money, nor do I HAVE to do this (although trying to pick up the pieces after life was literally flipped upside down and turned inside out and shoved through a black hole this summer... the present does, in fact, include "HAVE TO" but is not a permanent characteristic of me). I enjoy people, human interaction, and SEX!!!! The funds are great, too, but it's not ALL there is in this. There is absolutely many more facets to enjoy about the hobby!!

Thank you to all who have stepped up and seen me this summer even though I'm dealing with so much heartache and horrific circumstances. I NEED you gents at this point.... so keep it coming!! With your help, life is slowly finding a new normal. You are appreciated and remembered.

XoXo

Wyatt.... you are a doll. I'm sorry I wasn't able to take you up on your offer to spend some time discussing my life. I also know you are intelligent enough to know that I HAVE to spend 100% of my time working the hobby and personal time is zilch... I normally would meet for just dinner or something with a regular such as yourself without any real major expectation of time compensation above and beyond. Right now, however, I have to focus on getting life's pieces picked up. Maybe someday soon we can have that chat!! Stay safe!!!