I've lost my hobby mojo

[2ticks]

I'm pretty sure I've lost it... And because this is not something I'm going to chat up with family friends or the SO, you bastards (and lovely ladies) are my only hope for advice. I'm on a losing streak. It's been 5-6 months of pretty terrible adventures - and let me say up front - the providers were not the problem. It's me.

I travel a ton for business and like to whistle while I work. But my whistle is out of tune. I'm finding it less fun and more mechanical. I'm not connecting with anyone I see (which was always the best part) and having an impossible time making it to completion - half the time I can't get a damn condom on because I'm limp by the time we get it unwrapped. If I'm lucky enough to be with a truly gifted provider who sneaks it on mid bj, I usually noodle out after a few minutes of being wrapped up. It's like condoms have become my kryptonite!

I'm not advocating for BB - I'm just concerned that I'm losing it. I'm getting to the point where I'm in my head from the moment a session starts. I'm freaking myself out. And then the provider (bless them all) feels bad and starts working overtime with her mouth... And while I certainly appreciate a great bbbj, it becomes more of a chore just to try to cum. The experience is getting lost in the mad dash to blow a load.

At first I started looking for freakier options - which I have to say worked for a while. But I don't want a tounge in my ass every time I want to play - not to mention that seriously limits your options for companionship! And honestly I've paid too many up charges for trips to Greece that never happened. I freak myself limp and end up with a $$$$$ handjob. WTG stud.

I'm finding that my only hope is a full speed bng or multi hour sessions with a lot of talking - yep I said that. Sometimes if we can spend time flirting in public, teasing and building to it like a true gfe, nature takes back over. But it's incredibly hard to find that connection (and expensive).

So we are clear, this is not just a blue pill issue. I'm more than capable of knocking out a quickie. But I've lost the adventure. I seriously think my hobby days are numbered. Sorry to whine. Just ready to give up.

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[Eccie_award]

Lol, bro it sounds like a blue pill issue. Try those over the counter black rhino pills. I use them whenever im with a provider who does not partake in bbbj, and this helps me stay aroused.
But usually without the minor assistance, a cbj will end like your situations or i will just cut my losses and walk out. Could also be too much porn, so you may need that PSE to live up to your imagination. Another suggestion is find a provider you click with mentally and physically. Good luck.

[Guest112916]

If you can dig up some of Bonn11s old posts he used to inject some cocktail drug into his peepee. Seems it would make him grow and stay hard. He tried to hook me up with it but when he told he had messed up a dosage once he had to go have it bled off when he had a 6 hour erection.

[CoverMe]

"Mine's the one on the left." Still a classic.

To the OP: I've hit some patches of funk, too. As unrealistic as it may sound, perhaps a break from the game would help. Step back and catch your breath. Or try some activities or types of providers that are outside your norm like 90-minute doubles or older mature ladies. The older ones, BTW, are much more skilled at and open to the connection and passion as well as the BCD.

[Guest070316-1]

It happens. A break can work. Especially doing things differently in your everyday life. Eat healthier and make sure to get plenty of vitamins b, c and e. Quit drinking for a couple weeks if you do. Stop smoking. Number of things that can help sexual performance. Just go online and search, try new things. Perhaps find a bdsm specialist to tie you down and tease the fuck out of you for an edging experience. Lol.

Supplements can work, like rhino black or whatnot. Make sure to ask a doc if worried about blood pressure. I use them here and there. Not with all sessions. Just occasionally if I feel libido is down.

Cock rings seem to work well. Tried one for the first time couple months ago for Easter (was called the rabbit, go figure lol), pretty cool stuff and she liked it more than I, I think lol. Definitely never lost it, even during round 2.

Bimix is what Bonn seemed to use, the injection thing. Need a prescription, but most will write one up. Just find a place that does it if your comfortable with that. It doesn't hurt, it's like those diabetes finger pokers is how someone described it to me.

Find a lady open to using a female condom so you don't have to wear one. They sell them online, at the megaplex and other places. May help also.

Anyhow, hope you find something that works. Let us know what you find out.

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein

[2ticks]

Thanks for the replies and pms. I'm going to explore some of this - not the injections as I can live my entire life without needing to stick a needle in my cock! Beyond the medication it seems like a lot of mental which is nothing to hide from. Some wonderful pms from providers have given me hope in that department. I'll keep you all posted with how things go.

[DocHolyday]

I concur with my esteemed colleague ^^^ Dr. G. Good advice indeed. Give the male enhancement pills a try. I would prescribe Rhino Bl4ck, One More Knight or Miricle Zen Tripple 2000. Perhaps you should consider seeing a Urologist to discuss medical options. You say it is not a blue pill issue but have you tried some of the other ED medications? Tou may also consider seeing a psychologist to explore any mental issue causing the problem. Are you diabetic? Have you been tested for diabetes? Diabetes certainly will affect your performance. I'm talking from personal experience on that one.
I hope you can find a solution right for you Sir. As always, ladies, gentlemen, good day!

[Joe Buck]

Take a break and pace yourself, do your homework and try to make sure you find ladies you will make a connection with.

[Doglegg]

I can relate to the OP's situation.

Having an implant I don't have to worry about losing an erection, but it is more about losing the desire.

I lose interest if it is the same old hop on/hop off.

There has to be something that gains and retains my interest.

Too much head, I get bored.

No touching the starfish, I get bored.

Clock watcher - I get bored.

I contacted a young lady (now retired) and asked for something over the top, out of this world.

She said she would make it happen.

Got there and she pulled out a pussy pump. Hmmm, that was interesting brought out my engineering mindset and gave me something to concentrate on.

The session evolved from there with her tying me up, blindfolds, etc.

One of the best I have ever had as she made it playful and less about a business.

My opinion (which you get a hint of in my signature line) - find a lady that finds her work more of a hobby, one that likes to play with sexual situations, and get out of your head. Your big head will convince the little head as much as the little head will convince the big one.

Good luck and hope you find the right type of playmates.

[Eats_at_the_y]

Hey man. I am not there yet and I hope that I don't get there. I think that you should try the little blue pill. There is nothing wrong with needing just a little bit of help to get there.

Like my old buddy Mike used to say "I don't need it but if I ever do, I will be first in line to get it !!!!"

[Ms Francisca]

Originally Posted by CoverMe

" The older ones, BTW, are much more skilled at and open to the connection and passion as well as the BCD.

The most rewarding part of being a provider, is knowing I can keep a client interested in me, year, after year, after year.....
It's the "Hooker Achievement Award"

Besos,
Francisca

[Cheesecake7]

Originally Posted by 2ticks

......I'm finding it less fun and more mechanical. I'm not connecting with anyone I see......

It sounds like your erection problems are due to loosing fun in the hobby, loosing your hobby mojo. Once you are having fun again the problem may disappear.

I am loosing my hobby mojo periodically, like every 3 months or so. It just gets boring and tedious to arrange the sessions and to make time in my busy life and "I'd rather go fishing" etc. Sometimes it is triggered by a mediocre experience but usually not as I have a few ATF's that ALWAYS make me happy. In those times I feel more the need to cuddle up nightly to somebody (a feeling that got me into 2 failed marriages...).

So then I don't hobby at all for a few weeks (or months) and suddenly the urge comes back, often times triggered by looking through the showcase of my ATF's here on Eccie. So I make an appointment with my reliables and, wham, I am back in business!!

In my experience the age of the provider is not important, it is more the personality and whether they like to be with you. One of my ATF, after she swallows my load, always smiles mischievously and gives me a thank you kiss on the cheek. That is freaking priceless (in fact I am getting horny right now).

So my advice is to take a break, enjoy the flowers and do some other fun stuff (fishing comes to mind...) until the mojo wakes up again, with a vengeance.

[bigdon71]

Sounds like hobby burnout to me. If you don't have issues getting it up, then take a 30 day sabbatical from hobbying and also from the porn. Also, no choking the chicken during that time either. I've been where you are and a break is exactly what we need every now and then.

[Big One]

Go see a urologist. The injectables are called Trimix and Bimix and are over 90% effective (versus the blue pill at 70%). It's available by prescription only and much more cost effective than the blue pill. You inject it with a diabetic syringe / needle and is practically painless.

All the male porn stars use an excessive amount of it. That's the reason why they can perform for such extended periods of time.

[Guest101618]

2ticks, I've been there myself. My ATF was always able to pull me out of the funk when I wandered astray and just couldn't get any satisfaction. Unfortunately she has retired so I have no sure remedy any longer.