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Old 11-30-2017, 06:09 AM   #91
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I'm probably the wrong person to answer this since I'm the type that says, "You won't know unless you ask." But yeah, you won't know unless you ask. If she has two different rates, why not ask? I mean, I'm sure we can make up a cute little term for it and pretend you're not paying us to please your penis, but let's be real.
I think this is specifically about avoiding legal ramifications. I know playing semantic games doesn't protect anyone, but according to ShysterJon in the Legal forum, there are real risks to both providers and clients from discussing services and/or fees when arranging a meeting. I've heard that Arkansas is specifically bad in this regard; supposedly there is something in Arkansas law that makes it even more potentially damaging here than in other states. I don't remember exactly the nature of what the law is that makes it that way, but I'll try to dig it up later.

Here's the ShysterJon thread:

https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2157018

As for the specific question: Tough one. I have actually never had to face that one before because all the ladies I've spent time with just have one rate for their time (or at least if they had special rates for certain things I didn't know about it). If you really need to know, I don't see how you get out of asking. Maybe at least choosing the venue in which to ask could help not freak the provider out - a PM here vs. a text to the provider out of the blue, for example.
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Old 11-30-2017, 07:39 AM   #92
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I think this is specifically about avoiding legal ramifications. I know playing semantic games doesn't protect anyone, but according to ShysterJon in the Legal forum, there are real risks to both providers and clients from discussing services and/or fees when arranging a meeting. I've heard that Arkansas is specifically bad in this regard; supposedly there is something in Arkansas law that makes it even more potentially damaging here than in other states.
Ok, here is the relevant statute (written law):

"(a) A person commits prostitution if in return for or in expectation of a fee he or she engages in or agrees or offers to engage in sexual activity with any other person."
--AR Code § 5-70-102 (2015) (Emphasis added)

Note the bolded text. What that basically means is that the offense of prostitution is complete, and an individual can be charged with (and after trial or plea, convicted of and sentenced for) prostitution once the parties have agreed that one party will provide sexual services and the other will "pay a fee" for them (IOW, there is no need for sex to happen once the parties agree to the transaction).

This is why it's dangerous to talk specific activities and fees; if money and activities aren't discussed, it's more difficult to come to the conclusion that an agreement is reached.

I don't know that this is any more egregious than the law in other states (I've only malpracticed law in one state (Missouri) and parts of the Federal system (the military justice system and a few scattered appearances in the US District Court for the Eastern District of MO and the US Court of Appeals for the 8th Circuit)). If anything, the Arkansas statute, if strictly construed, is a bit less strict that those of other states, since it says "pay a fee", which might well make barter transactions for providers legal. (IIRC, most states's statutes read something along the lines of "for valuable consideration", which is lawyerspeak that would include both monetary payment or barter.)

However, before everyone starts arranging to barter with their ATFs, I'm pretty sure that there would be court decisions that would construe barter transactions as "paying a fee" within the meaning of this provision. Even if there aren't, I can think of the judicial logic that would justify such a construction of the statute.

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Old 01-15-2018, 08:12 PM   #93
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Here's something newbies should know but no one tells them until the ladies do: Once you've finished your business and filled the condom, grab it by the base as you extract yourself from the situation. Why? So you don't take a chance of the condom coming off and dumping your stuff all over her, negating all the playing safe that came before that.

They will appreciate you for it.
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Old 01-15-2018, 10:16 PM   #94
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I have a question that I haven't seen covered here yet. I know not to ask about services offered or donation amounts, and to instead just mention how long you want to meet and a possible day/time. In practice, what do you do if you've read through the providers profile (and website if applicable) and the donation amount differs based on the type of "experience" (by this I mean PSE or GFE, for example). Is there a proper way to specify this beforehand, without saying something that could get you in trouble?

I guess this question would also apply to extras. If the provider's profile lists an extra you are interested in (Greek for example), do you just add that to the donation, and then bring it up after you've laid your donation down? I'm having a hard time thinking of a way to bring up either of these subjects without getting into the kind of specifics you aren't supposed to. As always, thanks for all the info!
I would say safest way is give the donation you want to, perhaps the
Lower end one if you prefer and wait until the action starts. At that point it is safe to ask about the levels and adjust payment accordingly. Once the action is started you are ok to talk.
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Old 01-26-2018, 03:15 PM   #95
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This thread is a gift and Spanky is my Santa Claus.

It covers every question I had, as well as all of questions that I thought of along the way.

The most useful thing I got reading is a good understanding of the value that P411 provides and quite a bit more comfort in the idea of subscribing.

The only question I have remaining is whether the provider I PM'ed just before I went to Spanky school will forgive my foolishness for not having done so afterward.
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Old 01-26-2018, 07:40 PM   #96
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I'm glad you found it useful, jackson904. Best of luck on becoming an ex-newbie!
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Old 01-28-2018, 12:45 PM   #97
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Might I ask a favor, for anyone that has found this thread useful, or just thinks it's a good idea to have it? Would you mind rating it with however many stars you think it deserves?

This one is down to two stars ("bad"). There's a contingent of people who don't care for me for one reason or another that down vote every thread I post. Some form of passive-aggressive revenge I suppose. But I think this one deserves better for attempting to help people. Of course I realize they are downvoting me and not the thread content (presumably). But newbies don't necessarily realize that, and I'd prefer them to not have any concern about the thread's quality or reliability.
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Old 01-28-2018, 01:03 PM   #98
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I skimmed through earlier; think it's mostly stuff I learned before I joined, but for anyone who's starting their hobbying on this site it'd definitely be handy. And I plan to read through in more detail later just in case.

Thanks for collecting all this and pointing newbies like me in the right direction, I'll be happy to do that.

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Might I ask a favor, for anyone that has found this thread useful, or just thinks it's a good idea to have it? Would you mind rating it with however many stars you think it deserves?

This one is down to two stars ("bad"). There's a contingent of people who don't care for me for one reason or another that down vote every thread I post. Some form of passive-aggressive revenge I suppose. But I think this one deserves better for attempting to help people. Of course I realize they are downvoting me and not the thread content (presumably). But newbies don't necessarily realize that, and I'd prefer them to not have any concern about the thread's quality or reliability.
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Old 02-02-2018, 08:24 PM   #99
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Lightbulb Other resources: Reddit

There are a number of subreddits (much like topically-oriented forums) that pertain to the hobby and can be a useful source of information. Also, if there's a question you don't wish to ask here where people who might encounter you will see it, you could create a different handle on Reddit and ask there instead.

Below are the subreddits of interest. Unfortunately I'm not going to be able to provide clickable links, because the discussions there may veer into areas which are forbidden here.

The site is: reddit dot com.

Each subreddit has a name and is preceded by r/

For example: If you know about a subreddit called picturesofmycat, the link would be like this:

http://reddit.com/r/picturesofmycat

If that's too much of a pain you can also just google r/picturesofmycat and it should come right up.

So, here are the relevant subreddits (that I know of; there could be many more, as Reddit is HUGE):

r/Hookers


This subreddit is for men (and women!) who enjoy the company of prostitutes, hookers, ladies of the night, providers, or whatever you want to call them. Share stories, ask questions, or whatever you want!

(Spanky: hooker is not nomenclature I normally use in a non-joking way but that is what the group is called. This is the most client-oriented forum I'm aware of, though some escorts post there also)


r/Escorts

This subreddit is for all things Escort, with a focus on Education, Safety, and Health for Clients and Providers, alike. Both sides of the business are encouraged to post.


r/AskAnEscort

Ask us anything within reason!
Questions about how the industry works and laws related to escorting are STRONGLY preferred. We encourage discussion on changing escorting and society's view of it for the better.

(Spanky: Escorts and clients can ask questions, but only escorts are allowed to answer)

There are others, but those are the three with the most relevance to this thread.
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Old 02-02-2018, 08:28 PM   #100
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What would it take to get this thread stickied? I keep forgetting to bump it and I try to link newbies to it as they arrive but it would be better if it was right there waiting for them on the first page. There have been numerous comments on its usefulness so I think it warrants consideration for a sticky.
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Old 02-03-2018, 10:01 AM   #101
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Pimps do exist in the hobby. I've talked to some newer guys and even some ladies who were under the impression that eccie providers are somehow only independent ladies. It might be because the "Independent Provider Reviews" forum gives them that impression. It's not true, and even if eccie did try to let only let true independents be verified, there would be no way to enforce it.

Hopefully you won't encounter a pimp in your first few outings, and if you do you probably won't be aware of it. Clients have a lot of different points of view about pimps, who you will also see euphemistically called 'managers' or 'management' when discussed here.

Some clients don't care at all.

Some clients don't care as long as they believe the provider associated with the pimp is not being coerced or abused. There is a belief that there are good pimps ("sugar pimps") and bad pimps (sometimes also called 'gorilla pimps')

Some clients don't want anything to do with pimps and seek to see only truly independent providers. Reasons for this are varied. Clients may think having a pimp involved creates an extra security risk to them, either from the pimp himself or from the extra attention pimps draw from law enforcement. They may also avoid managed ladies because of the likelihood that they are being coerced or abused and not wanting to support that. Some clients may have the perspective of wanting all their donation going to the lady to support herself and her family; why should it go to a pimp that didn't do anything for them?

My personal perspective is that I was one of the "don't care as long as they aren't being coerced" camp when starting out, but as I've progressed in the hobby I believe less and less in the "good pimp" concept and think that a lot of the ladies who are managed do have some mental and/or physical abuse going on, and intimidation tactics used to prevent them from leaving if they want to.

I see a pimp as different than a boyfriend or husband helping a lady manage her business as a booker or something like that. But, the lines can be blurry. I think these are some questions that would determine whether someone is truly a pimp or just a helper:

Does she have exclusive authority over who her clients are, when she works, where she works, and what services are offered?

Is he* involved only in the administrative and promotional activities or does he have some involvement in the appointments themselves? (e.g., monitoring them in some way, "security", etc.)

Would there be harassment if she decided to do without those services or could she "fire" him at any time of her choosing?

What happens to the money? Does she control it and give him a commission (or do they share a household and benefit equally from the proceeds), or does he control it and give her an "allowance".


Is he physically and/or mentally abusive of her?

*I'm using the male pronoun above simply for convenience. There can be female pimps, though they are surely much rarer than the male ones.

(The questions above came from a poll I posted a while back that will give you a general idea of how clients view pimps: https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2234734)

You might be wondering what's the difference between a pimp and an agency. Agencies take a lot of the donation from the ladies in their employ (around 30-50% from what I've heard), but typically the ladies are free to stop working for the agency at any time with no intimidation tactics used to prevent them from leaving. Also the owners of the agencies aren't as likely to be having sex with the ladies themselves, which is different than with a pimp.

So, as you grow in the hobby you will likely want to make a conscious decision on whether you want to see managed ladies or independents or both.

If you don't care, do nothing. Just book with ladies that appeal to you. If there is a pimp involved you'll likely not know it if he's competent and good at staying in the shadows.

If you'd rather see only independents, there are some signs you can look for that suggest a pimp MAY be involved. I hasten to add that none of these by themselves conclusively prove pimp involvement. They are clues, nothing more, and the more of them that exist the more you might start to suspect there's a pimp behind the scenes.

Getting what will surely be the most controversial one out of the way first:

CBJ (covered blowjob) only. Read this carefully: CBJ alone means NOTHING about whether a lady is managed. I AM NOT SAYING ALL LADIES WHO ARE CBJ-ONLY HAVE PIMPS. I think most ladies who are managed will be CBJ-only, but there are many other reasons ladies might choose this, such as prevention of STDs and client hygiene issues. Pimps want to prevent STDs also, because down time for treatment reduces earning potential, and also I've been told by providers that pimps like to keep something special for their own enjoyment (i.e., BBBJ). Once again, to make sure this is crystal clear: I am not saying that CBJ = pimp. I know and enjoy ladies who have CBJ-only policies for their own reasons, and I respect their rules like I do with any other providers' rules. I don't think they should be given a hard time about CBJ; guys that don't like it should simply find others that give them what they want.

Managed ladies may not kiss or may only allow closed-mouth kissing, while still trying to capitalize on the cachet of "GFE" by calling their services "GFE lite" or something similar. This is much like CBJ in that some independent providers also don't do it for their own reasons, and again I don't think they should be hassled for their choices and I'm also NOT saying that no kissing = pimp. It is simply another clue that doesn't mean much all by itself.

Written communications (text, PM, email) in differing writing styles that seem like a different person was the author, or that conflict with other messages, indicating that one sender wasn't aware of something the other said.

Garish, over-hyped ads that look like an explosion at a dingbat font factory occurred.

Also likely to be controversial: Posting ads on Backpage. OK, I personally know ladies who post on Backpage who are most certainly independent. So I'm not saying anyone who advertises on Backpage is managed, but it is undeniable that Backpage is a haven for pimps, so this can be another clue when takin in consideration combined with the others here.

Adjoining rooms. The pimp may be waiting in the next room during the appointment. Of course an independent provider can't help it if she's given an adjoining room so this isn't a sure-fire sign either.

One bit of advice for those who don't really have a concern about seeing someone under management: Be careful what you say during the date.You never know who might be listening in remotely, and you don't want to reveal too much about yourself. Of course that's good advice for all hobby encounters.

If you have premium access and have a concern about someone being managed, you can always ask in the Men's Lounge to see if other guys have a perspective. Just keep in mind that there, as everywhere, one person's opinion doesn't necessarily make it so, so take everything with a large grain of salt.

So there it is. Probably more than you want to know about pimps but I think it is good to be informed about about all of this early on so that you can make an informed choice about whether you will see managed providers or not. My own personal choice is that I try not to, but as with most things here, I don't claim my way is the best way for everyone, just the way that works for me.
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Outing is releasing another member's personal, real-life information, or linking to something that reveals it. Hopefully that's not something you would ever do intentionally. However, it's also possible to do it inintentionally, without even knowing you've done anything wrong. It's a long ban - 6 months I believe, even if unintentional. Longer if intentional. Could be for life if there are repeated violations.

A recent incident got two members banned. It would be instructive to look at it in order to not repeat the same mistake.

https://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=2292145

The second poster in the thread posted a link to a news article about a bust, which gave the real names of the people involved in the bust. No problem so far, it is only outing if you link it to a member's handle here, which the poster did not do.

A subsequent poster in the thread mentioned the name of a member here who was one of the busted. Both the poster of the news article and the one who posted the members's handle got banned, even though neither of them (to my knowledge) provided all of the information needed to out the member. Both provided a piece however, and taken together they did allow the member to be outed so both were banned even though I doubt either of them had intent to out anyone.

Learn lessons here. Do not post links to news articles about prostitution busts, especially if they include people's names. If one of those names happens to be a member here, you just provided a piece of the linkage to out them even if you had no intent to do so. All it takes is for someone else to provide the other piece as in the example above and you both go down for it.

Outing doesn't only mean directly linking someone's real identity yourself. Say you happen to know where someone's personal information is out on the web and you tell people what Google search to use to find it. That is outing, and I believe the intentional kind as well (not 100% sure about that). I've also seen someone get banned after a provider was arrested, for commenting (without mentioning her name) about a conflict she had with another provider in enough detail to be able to know her user name, even though it was not mentioned.

Outing is not tolerated on eccie, nor should it be. None of us want our personal information released. As a newbie it may not have been obvious to you how you could accidentally do it, but hopefully now it is. Treat anything that could possibly link to someone's personal information as a hot stove - don't touch it!
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One more I forgot, and this one pretty much is a dead giveaway more so than anything else on the list taken by itself:

You call a lady and don't get an answer. But, almost immediately she calls you back on a blocked number.

What's happening here is that the pimp has her phone and she isn't with him. He starts a 3 way call on her hobby phone and dials her in on her personal phone to talk to you.

As for why he has her phone, it's so he can make sure that he's getting paid for all the time she books and she isn't freelancing and pocketing any. Also to ensure that whatever rules he has in place for her are being followed.
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What is "BNG" (listed among the donations on provider pages)? Can't find it in the acronym list.

While I'm at it, I figure "QV" is a quarter hour but what is the "V"?
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What is "BNG" (listed among the donations on provider pages)? Can't find it in the acronym list.

While I'm at it, I figure "QV" is a quarter hour but what is the "V"?
BNG = Blow ‘N Go - a 15 minute blowjob

I always thought QV was Quick Visit but I could be wrong
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