Fine_Wine, I like where you're going with this. I think a lot of guys really know why ladies say "no black men," but having the ladies with these preferences self-analyze why and then verbalize why in an open forum helps to understand the thought process and perhaps bring about a resolution....and if not a resolution an understanding.
Some ladies are afraid to come out and say what they think whether it's from personal experience or based on roomer (what they've heard/seen from someone else.)
Here are some reasons why ladies say, "no black men." Now a lot of times this has nothing to do with being racist (having a hatred towards another group), but it comes from prejudices (unsubstantiated beliefs presumed to be facts in the mind of that person or their racial group) which often leads to racist actions. The racist actions is where the problems come in.
Also it's important to understand that many of the women saying "no black men" are either in relationships with black men or they have children by black men. So logically it makes no sense, but in the hobby world logic is often illogical.
Here are some reasons that some women have for not seeing black guys:
1. Most of their dicks are too big.
2. They are too ghetto. I don't like how they talk and how they treat me.
3. They want to fuck for the entire time.
4. They are too cheap.
5. He could be a pimp and might kidnap me.
6. They are too passionate...too intense.
7. Some white guys are prejudiced and won't see me if they think I'm
screwing a black guy. I'll still fuck a black guy, but white guys will
think I don't.
8. Their pimp doesn't want them seeing black guys because they think he
could be a pimp or the pimp doesn't want another possible black guy
stretching out his girl's pussy or the possibility of her falling for
the other black guy. (This shit is crazy, but it's true!)
9. They're just saying no black guys, because every other girl on BP is saying it. They
have no idea why. They just figure the black guys must be dangerous.
Each of the points above can be discussed in great detail. I won't do it here. You'll have to read my book.
Now taking racist actions is where the problem lies especially when it's public via advertisements. It is incredibly demeaning. It's almost like having a white water fountain and a black water fountain when it makes sense that we should all be able to drink from the same fountain (unless of course you've got cooties, then you need to have bottled water. lol)
To further clarify how this feels (I'll use white guys as a test subject and I could really use any group), I've created some meme's. Just remember black guys see this everyday. I want you to imagine just getting paid and you have a stack of money. You're horny and you want some pussy.
You go to BP and some other sites and find this:
It's kind of funny when you look at it now, but how would you feel if you saw that everyday? It wouldn't be so funny. Black guys see this every single day not just from white women, latina women, asian women...but from black women too. Yeah! So if you're a black man with a barrel full of money you're limited on who you can fuck! Now that's what black guys in general might feel, but that isn't necessarily a reality for all black men especially the ones that understand the hobby game....and it is a game.
So take the information for what it's worth. Several years ago I tried to educate some folks about some similar things. They didn't believe it, but then 2 or 3 years later they started figuring it out.
The hobby is a great place. I've always loved all women just like the variety of fruits that this world produces. I've seen every race of woman and many varieties of those races and I'm still not done. Whatever race you are, you should never be discouraged. You should never feel less than anyone else. Just remember that this is a game. The better you play it, the better your outcome.