Ladies: Has an angry wife ever called you?

[alluringava]

I was just discussing this with a gentleman about why my number is restricted when I call clients back.


Some time ago, apparently a man's wife found my number on his cell ( and another girl's number) and started calling and calling and calling. I mean at least 40 times. I answered the phone and tried to be polite about it, but she called me all the foulest names in the book and it was like, lady, why don't you go yell at your husband?!

She would not stop bothering me and finally I said, " You know, I can see why your husband wanted to see escorts. If you would just shut up and suck his dick more often, that might be the solution to his infidelity. "

She stopped calling.

[charlestudor2005]

Perfect response.

[tonytiger4u]

Yes, it's difficult to nag with a dick in your mouth. Kills two birds with one stone!

[Valerie]

Yeah..had happened a few times, I simply just start speaking French to them and it throws them off...eventually they just get frustrated and hang up...end of.

[Sweet N Little]

Ive had it happen, I just played dumb and acted like I didn't know what she was talking about.
Playing the dumb card always works.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by alluringava

I was just discussing this with a gentleman about why my number is restricted when I call clients back.


Some time ago, apparently a man's wife found my number on his cell ( and another girl's number) and started calling and calling and calling. I mean at least 40 times. I answered the phone and tried to be polite about it, but she called me all the foulest names in the book and it was like, lady, why don't you go yell at your husband?!

She would not stop bothering me and finally I said, " You know, I can see why your husband wanted to see escorts. If you would just shut up and suck his dick more often, that might be the solution to his infidelity. "

She stopped calling.

I think your response was in no way more mature than the wife`s reaction. Can you imagine the pain women feel (and I assume you must be able to, because I am sure you are monogamous) when they discover that their husband has cheated on them? Most often it does not matter that you are a paid provider, instead of just another type of woman.

So given the fact that this woman shouted at you out of pain and anger of getting to acknowledge some facts here, and of course - she let her anger out on you, the most impersonal link to her husbands cheatery.

All monogamous people do that. When someone cheats or mono-couples experience infidelity, all of them are angry at the "third" wheel.
Why is that? It is very simple psychological explanation: Because it is easier and less painful to believe that the person you trusted is evil and deserves to be yelled at.
To yell at her husband means that she also hurts herself even more.
And I am sure she yelled plenty at her husband.

What you did was cruel and immature, sorry to say. You are a professional provider you have to learn how to deal with these things. They come with the choice to be an entertainer. Because you are "aware" what territory you operate in, the wife of a cheating husband most often isn`t. Maybe she did not even know you are a provider? Maybe she thought you are having an affair with her husband.

I have monogamous friends who actually used to break up with their partners over them seing escorts. For "ordinary" women it does not matter where the husband dumps the dick into, it matters THAT he dumps the dick. So, the first reaction will always be outrage and lashing out at others.
She was, I am pretty sure, in a state of shock and very very helpless!!

I think a better response would have been trying to get her to react normally and ask if she wants to have a civilised discussion about that you are happy to provide answers and calm her down.

What you did was cruel and very very coldhearted. Sorry to say.
I am sure a marriage deserves more respect than to tell a wife to suck cock and stop shouting. There is much more to it. And we - the professionals - need to be more sympathetic to ourselves, the sociological function our profession has (which is to support marriages ) and the needs we entertain.

Granted, if your clients were not married no one of us would make a lot of money. So - this fact alone should make us a little more respectful or wise in how to treat such agendas.
Just saying.

Nina Sastri

[charlestudor2005]

@Nina

I might agree with you had that been Ava's first response. But the wife called around 40 times before Ava said what she said. So, I beg to differ. I think Ava acted very professionally. No one I know is required to take phone abuse in their job. I have employees who have to put up with a certain amount of phone abuse, but after it gets to a certain point, I tell them to explain they are not allowed to be abused, and to hang up.

Ava has taken it one step farther. She has blocked her phone number. So this should go a long way to preventing this from happening again. More responsible behavior on her part.

The totally irresponsible one here is you, Nina. Trying to over-psychoanalyze this incident with your limited knowledge of psychology. Sometimes common sense rules. You should try exercising Occam's Razor principle from time to time (or more often if it is within your skill set).

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by ninasastri

I think your response was in no way more mature than the wife`s reaction. Can you imagine the pain women feel (and I assume you must be able to, because I am sure you are monogamous) when they discover that their husband has cheated on them? Most often it does not matter that you are a paid provider, instead of just another type of woman.

So given the fact that this woman shouted at you out of pain and anger of getting to acknowledge some facts here, and of course - she let her anger out on you, the most impersonal link to her husbands cheatery.

All monogamous people do that. When someone cheats or mono-couples experience infidelity, all of them are angry at the "third" wheel.
Why is that? It is very simple psychological explanation: Because it is easier and less painful to believe that the person you trusted is evil and deserves to be yelled at.
To yell at her husband means that she also hurts herself even more.
And I am sure she yelled plenty at her husband.

What you did was cruel and immature, sorry to say. You are a professional provider you have to learn how to deal with these things. They come with the choice to be an entertainer. Because you are "aware" what territory you operate in, the wife of a cheating husband most often isn`t. Maybe she did not even know you are a provider? Maybe she thought you are having an affair with her husband.

I have monogamous friends who actually used to break up with their partners over them seing escorts. For "ordinary" women it does not matter where the husband dumps the dick into, it matters THAT he dumps the dick. So, the first reaction will always be outrage and lashing out at others.
She was, I am pretty sure, in a state of shock and very very helpless!!

I think a better response would have been trying to get her to react normally and ask if she wants to have a civilised discussion about that you are happy to provide answers and calm her down.

What you did was cruel and very very coldhearted. Sorry to say.
I am sure a marriage deserves more respect than to tell a wife to suck cock and stop shouting. There is much more to it. And we - the professionals - need to be more sympathetic to ourselves, the sociological function our profession has (which is to support marriages ) and the needs we entertain.

Granted, if your clients were not married no one of us would make a lot of money. So - this fact alone should make us a little more respectful or wise in how to treat such agendas.
Just saying.

Nina Sastri

Nina, can you read properly? This woman harassed me for hours. I TRIED three times to be polite to her and she would not stop calling me. So I respect your opinion but I certainly DO NOT agree with it. So get off your high horse pedestal and put yourself in my shoes. She threatened me in more than one way too. And she was one of only TWO wives who ever called me, the first one was polite and asked about some things regarding her husband. I am not going to be polite when a woman is threatening my livelihood, my pets, my family, and then threatening to call the cops on me, and calling me racist names. You can say what you want, honey, but you need to see it from my perspective . Cruel? Oh no, not cruel. Truthful.She had NO RIGHT to do what she did to me. So again, get off your high and mighty horse and come down with the rest of the normal human have every right to be angry. I cannot stand escorts like you who don't even consider the other side of the story



Oh no wonder you're such a snob. You're one of those 'high end escorts' who thinks just because she charges an arm and a leg that makes you classier and better than the rest of us. Give me a break. As I said, when you come down to reality and stop being such a high and mighty HOLIER than thou person, then you can have the right to tell me I was wrong. But you don't because you were not on the other side of the phone when this woman threatened and harassed me. Don't you dare for one instant think you're better just because you don't think you would 'stoop' to that level. The bitch stopped calling me, and that was the main thing. So now, you can look down your nose or thumb it or whatever, but before you ever decide to give an opinion to me or judge me, you better listen to both sides of the story and who's the one threatening who.

[Naomi4u]

Ok the wife has never called me. Nope. Never.

However, back in July, She did walk in while I was giving him a bj. That was a very interesting day for me. I was paranoid for weeks.

[davidsmith0123]

Wow, now providers are expected (by other providers) to be marriage counselors. Surely it is not the provider's responsibility to help a man and woman repair a broken marriage. There is way more than infidelity at the heart of the matter. I venture to say that in most cases infidelity is a symptom and not the underlying disease. (A topic for another thread is why physical infidelity is so scorned, while various other forms are allowed or ignored or put up with.)

In an ideal world that would be a nice thing for providers to give marriage counseling on the side. Perhaps those so inclined should just stop seeing married clients. (But I hope not in my case!) In fact, I doubt many if any providers have the (formal) training to try and save a marriage, so such attempts may at least hypothetically lead to lawsuits. Better to tell the parties to see a professional (marriage counselor, that is.)

Again, why see married clients if you are so concerned about infidelity?

[lisa.lisa0302]

Nope, have not had it happen.

If one called, I would just let the phone ring, I have nothing to say to the wife, nothing, nothing I can say to make her feel better, best to let her call and eventually stop.

[Sweet N Little]

I did have one threaten me through email one time, she said how would you like it if your Mother knew what you did?
I replied that she wouldn't care that she was just happy I'm out of prison and was able to beat the murder charge.

Never heard from her again

[LeftySmith]

SNL...now that was funny

[alluringava]

Originally Posted by davidsmith0123

Wow, now providers are expected (by other providers) to be marriage counselors. Surely it is not the provider's responsibility to help a man and woman repair a broken marriage. There is way more than infidelity at the heart of the matter. I venture to say that in most cases infidelity is a symptom and not the underlying disease. (A topic for another thread is why physical infidelity is so scorned, while various other forms are allowed or ignored or put up with.)

In an ideal world that would be a nice thing for providers to give marriage counseling on the side. Perhaps those so inclined should just stop seeing married clients. (But I hope not in my case!) In fact, I doubt many if any providers have the (formal) training to try and save a marriage, so such attempts may at least hypothetically lead to lawsuits. Better to tell the parties to see a professional (marriage counselor, that is.)

Again, why see married clients if you are so concerned about infidelity?

I'm not the one concerned about infidelity. My point was that I understood her anger but she had no right to threaten me, harass me ( and I went out and filed a police report against her for harassment and threats to my well being, regardless of me being an escort) .At one point she even said " You better be watching over your shoulder bitch." I kept a record of all 40 plus calls she made, as well as ( she called from a blocked number). I tried to be rational with her three times and she wasn't listening to it so that was why I just said, suck a dick bitch and your husband won't cheat.

[NinaBrooke]

Originally Posted by alluringava

Nina, can you read properly? This woman harassed me for hours. I TRIED three times to be polite to her and she would not stop calling me. So I respect your opinion but I certainly DO NOT agree with it. So get off your high horse pedestal and put yourself in my shoes. She threatened me in more than one way too. And she was one of only TWO wives who ever called me, the first one was polite and asked about some things regarding her husband. I am not going to be polite when a woman is threatening my livelihood, my pets, my family, and then threatening to call the cops on me, and calling me racist names. You can say what you want, honey, but you need to see it from my perspective . Cruel? Oh no, not cruel. Truthful.She had NO RIGHT to do what she did to me. So again, get off your high and mighty horse and come down with the rest of the normal human have every right to be angry. I cannot stand escorts like you who don't even consider the other side of the story



Oh no wonder you're such a snob. You're one of those 'high end escorts' who thinks just because she charges an arm and a leg that makes you classier and better than the rest of us. Give me a break. As I said, when you come down to reality and stop being such a high and mighty HOLIER than thou person, then you can have the right to tell me I was wrong. But you don't because you were not on the other side of the phone when this woman threatened and harassed me. Don't you dare for one instant think you're better just because you don't think you would 'stoop' to that level. The bitch stopped calling me, and that was the main thing. So now, you can look down your nose or thumb it or whatever, but before you ever decide to give an opinion to me or judge me, you better listen to both sides of the story and who's the one threatening who.

I did not know, she was threatening you in such a severe way. Yes that is gross. You are right. No one has the right to threaten others in that way. Calling 40 times alone was no hint to me , but given the threats and such, it is indeed awful. One might have wondered, what it was that the husband in question did tell his wife about you? Maybe he told some story about YOU being the one wanting something from him. Could be possible.

What have your first responses been?

And I am not the snob you make me out to be, in fact, I criticise other escorts for exactly that snobbish behaviour.
So you might do some research about me first, before you accuse me of doing stuff or being in a way that is not appropriate.

You shout at me for doing what I have done in response to your post, but then it is you that has to come off from your high horse, my dear.
I have worked all ends of the market, in all "price ranges" and in no way do I ever judge people based on how much they charge? Where would you have that from? Hello?

Before you label people do your freakin`research. *giggle*