Suggestive Screening?

[Guest100116]

I've been hobbying 25+ years on and off. Providers can screen to what ever level they are comfortable with and that's ok with me. I've meet alot of great ladies through the years. This is a high risk business, entertainment or whatever you want to call it for both parties. My last name, where I work, my address will never be given. My phone number is a disposable phone that costs almost nothing. If that means I won't see a particular lady that's fine. It's like the bus stop. There will be another coming down the line in ten minutes.

[Mature Companion]

Originally Posted by cctex

My last name, where I work, my address will never be given. My phone number is a disposable phone that costs almost nothing.

Nor should you! And yes, anyone participating in this adult hobby, should have a hobby phone, hobby email & handle.
And never disclose of their personal life info.

Discretion is key. Something SO many folks don't have a grasp of.

[Whitedog]

I really don't like to provide names for screening either, but realize it's part of this game. For those that have been around awhile though, that you haven't seen before, perhaps a photo ID would be adaquate. I have no problem giving my real name to a lady when I meet her for her comfort, and simply ask for complete discretion. When time is a factor, and there hasn't been time to be screened, I've been forced to go to those that were NOT my first choice, but could get me in with short notice. Caution is good, but overdoing it can cause a lot of lost business. It's a fine line to tread. Common sense can go a long way.

[Mature Companion]

Are you equating showing a Photo ID safer than providing names of providers you've seen for reference/screening sake? Just asking.
As ones photo ID can't tell a lady how a guy treats her when alone behind locked closed doors with him.

And good luck with hoping that those you give your real name to, will keep it discreet. There's too many folks i this hobby who lack discretion. And it's best never to disclose your personal life info to anyone.

Originally Posted by Whitedog

I really don't like to provide names for screening either, but realize it's part of this game. For those that have been around awhile though, that you haven't seen before, perhaps a photo ID would be adaquate. I have no problem giving my real name to a lady when I meet her for her comfort, and simply ask for complete discretion.

[Whitedog]

WM, that's probably true, but I do restrict myself to established providers like yourself, and don't do much 'fishing', so maybe my situation is unique. I'm not saying the ID route is safer, just that it's a possible option. In certain circumstances, it may work for some providers, and some clients. If a provider can look up a particular client in the phone book, they should feel a lot safer than with an anonomous client. I prefer the mature, professional, and so far, have encountered with few exceptions, here in ECCIE, and ASPD, just that. I realize it would be tough for a newbie, but there are probably ways to make the screening process smoother and still maintain security.

[sajay]

meet/greet first??? I'm one of the newbies that recently contacted you lol... I agree with some of the previous posts, you have to do what makes sense to you... but if i had to guess and this is just a shit guess, i would bet most of the newbies are on the up and up... otherwise you would not have newbie friendly providers stay in business so long lol...

but thinking some more... I guess meet/greet really doesnt tell u shit other than the guy can be polite while drinking coffee... icky situation I guess...

[Mature Companion]

Originally Posted by Whitedog

WM, that's probably true, but I do restrict myself to established providers like yourself, and don't do much 'fishing', so maybe my situation is unique. I'm not saying the ID route is safer, just that it's a possible option. In certain circumstances, it may work for some providers, and some clients. If a provider can look up a particular client in the phone book, they should feel a lot safer than with an anonomous client. I prefer the mature, professional, and so far, have encountered with few exceptions, here in ECCIE, and ASPD, just that. I realize it would be tough for a newbie, but there are probably ways to make the screening process smoother and still maintain security.

Unfortunately, that particular statement is beyond unsafe.
There's no way a phone book or a hobbyist name/number is going to tell that lady how you the hobbyist *treat* a lady & behave while alone with her in a locked room. Nor does the phone book tell the lady if you've caused any harm to anyone you've previously met. Nor does it tell her is you NC/NS etc.

Basically, there is is absolutely nothing a phone book look up will tell a provider other than there's a name in the phone book. It may or may not belong to the hobbyist. That in and of itself is not safe screening.

It's that type of screening manipulation that puts some ladies in harms way. No lady should see a hobbyist w/o feedback from other well known/reliable safe providers that he previously seen.

Originally Posted by sajay

meet/greet first??? I'm one of the newbies that recently contacted you lol... I agree with some of the previous posts, you have to do what makes sense to you... but if i had to guess and this is just a shit guess, i would bet most of the newbies are on the up and up... otherwise you would not have newbie friendly providers stay in business so long lol...

Absolutely not. Most Newbies are NOT on the up & up!
There are cops who are seemingly *newbies* on this board & others as well as guys who are on the alerts & those hiding from previous handles they may of had. So on and so forth.

[sajay]

thanks WM... I see your point! (i did say it was a shit guess ) so it seems newbie friendly providers are really taking a big risk then.... well I guess i got lucky cause I found a well established provider that remembers me from a few years ago so i won't be newbie soon lol...

[Whitedog]

WM; yup, to each their own, and I fully agree that it would be risky with a newbie. It certainly presents a dilema.

I guess that's why I don't mind a very light screening when I've been around the board for awhile, and have seen a number of the established ladies, but I'm not comfortable with it. I would expect some of the others that have been here awhile to have a pretty good idea who I am, and if I was short on time, wouldn't appreciate a lot of my time being wasted with an over-intensive screening. At that point, it's not for safety, it's for ego. I'm speaking only for myself here. I rarely would do a review for the reason that I don't like to talk about what I do, and giving out names of who I've been with, just makes me uncomfortable. I can't help that, it's just the way it is.

[Mature Companion]

IMHO, Yes they are. But that's their choice.

Screening will always be an issue no matter how it's done by each individual or bypassed all together.

Hobby safely & wisely!

Originally Posted by sajay

thanks WM... I see your point! (i did say it was a shit guess ) so it seems newbie friendly providers are really taking a big risk then.... well I guess i got lucky cause I found a well established provider that remembers me from a few years ago so i won't be newbie soon lol...

[Chuck12]

Originally Posted by cctex

My last name, where I work, my address will never be given. My phone number is a disposable phone that costs almost nothing. If that means I won't see a particular lady that's fine. It's like the bus stop. There will be another coming down the line in ten minutes.

I completely agree that each provider can screen whatever way they feel comfortable with. If a hobbyist does not like it or does not want to follow it, then he can just move on.

I agree, I do not give any personal information to the ladies or show them my ID. I don't take anything that will reveal personal info with me to a date.

I've been around for a while and I have ladies that know me and will vouch for my character. If for whatever reason that's not enough for a lady than I'll move on. Besides if they can find out how Chuck12 is from providers that have seen Chuck12 (I'm using the third person I know) they don't need to know anything about the non-hobby person behind the Chuck12 handle. I make my decision to see Provider X because of the reviews, ads, and reputation of Provider X, I don't ask to see their ID or get their real name. In our fantasy land its best to stay in our fantasy personas.

Originally Posted by Whitedog

I would expect some of the others that have been here awhile to have a pretty good idea who I am, and if I was short on time, wouldn't appreciate a lot of my time being wasted with an over-intensive screening. At that point, it's not for safety, it's for ego. I'm speaking only for myself here. I rarely would do a review for the reason that I don't like to talk about what I do, and giving out names of who I've been with, just makes me uncomfortable. I can't help that, it's just the way it is.

I don't think it matters how long a hobbyist has been on the board for the screening process. A lady should not do a less intensive screening because a hobbyist has been on the board for a while.

[WarmNCordial]

I just recently got started in this hobby. Before I got my p411 screening done I contacted a provider who was newbie friendly and she emailed me the following screening questions. Also after some scheduling problems I contacted another newbie friendly provider who asked a similar set of questions. I don't really see how anyone would have problems with these questions.
BTW, I think the above advice about it being your decision as to what requirements are needed is what counts. It's easy enough for guys to see newbie friendly providers and build up some references before they meet up with more careful providers.


What is your full your given name?
What is your age?
Contact number – please note I will never call unless it has been discussed between us.
Where did you locate me?
Have you reviewed my website?
Do you have any references or screening service ids? If yes please provide their contact information or id.
Do you post on any local escort boards? If yes what handle/s do you use?
Where are you from?
If you are from out of town what are you in town for?
What line of business are you in?
Are you looking for incall or outcall?
How long did you want to get together for?
What time did you have in mind?

[man-beast]

Originally Posted by cctex

I've been hobbying 25+ years on and off. Providers can screen to what ever level they are comfortable with and that's ok with me. I've meet alot of great ladies through the years. This is a high risk business, entertainment or whatever you want to call it for both parties. My last name, where I work, my address will never be given. My phone number is a disposable phone that costs almost nothing. If that means I won't see a particular lady that's fine. It's like the bus stop. There will be another coming down the line in ten minutes.

I couldn't have said it better. Your paying for that time of fun. Don't cross into my personal life and ask where I work. Speaking of time why are the rates going up ? There needs to be some kind of scale..

[Guest100116]

There are only 2 questions I have a problem with and I'm sure they would be deal breeakers.
My full name - I have a unique name. Only one in u. s. I guess if your name is John Smith, go for it.
My profession - You have someones full name and profession, you can gather way to much info.
Providers that request this will always be a pass for me.

[sixxbach]

Originally Posted by Whitedog

I have no problem giving my real name to a lady when I meet her for her comfort, and simply ask for complete discretion.

Really?

Originally Posted by tedtex

I just recently got started in this hobby. Before I got my p411 screening done I contacted a provider who was newbie friendly and she emailed me the following screening questions. Also after some scheduling problems I contacted another newbie friendly provider who asked a similar set of questions. I don't really see how anyone would have problems with these questions.
BTW, I think the above advice about it being your decision as to what requirements are needed is what counts. It's easy enough for guys to see newbie friendly providers and build up some references before they meet up with more careful providers.


What is your full your given name?
What is your age?
Contact number – please note I will never call unless it has been discussed between us.
Where did you locate me?
Have you reviewed my website?
Do you have any references or screening service ids? If yes please provide their contact information or id.
Do you post on any local escort boards? If yes what handle/s do you use?
Where are you from?
If you are from out of town what are you in town for?
What line of business are you in?
Are you looking for incall or outcall?
How long did you want to get together for?
What time did you have in mind?

Too much. I simply contact via P411. If that is not enough, oh well.

sixx