Taking a provider on vacation? Opinions needed!

[DMike]

no whore is worth that much !!!

[jframe2]

Good God, just do it.

You know you are gonna do it, you just want justification/verification/consideration from others.

Just frickin' do it already.

See if we can get three pages of replies when you write your post reviewing your vacation with a provider.

New suggestion, take half the money you are gonna spend and give it to a local charity. Take the other half and hire as many providers as you can and have fun over the same number of days you were going to vacation.

You will get a tax deduction, a good warm fuzzy feeling for helping a charity in your community and I GUARANTEE you will get more sex than you are gonna get on a multi-day vacation with a provider.

3 pages and climbing on this. WOW, just really WOW!!

[ywn]

Jframe2, not all of us justs want sex and sex only. And I think when you want affection more than sex, the issue gets tricky and confusing. Perhaps that's why people are giving so many good opinions here. I truly appreciate all of them. As I can honestly say that I am confused as to if I'm looking for the wrong thing here. Is this hobby sex and sex only? Perhaps I'm getting this and sugar relationships confused.

[BBW Katrina]

Originally Posted by DMike

no whore is worth that much !!!

No, you're not. Good call.

[JustCause]

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

No, you're not. Good call.

Haha

[A.Reader]

Originally Posted by DMike

no whore is worth that much !!!

Originally Posted by jframe2

Good God, just do it.

You know you are gonna do it, you just want justification/verification/consideration from others.

Just frickin' do it already.

See if we can get three pages of replies when you write your post reviewing your vacation with a provider.

New suggestion, take half the money you are gonna spend and give it to a local charity. Take the other half and hire as many providers as you can and have fun over the same number of days you were going to vacation.

You will get a tax deduction, a good warm fuzzy feeling for helping a charity in your community and I GUARANTEE you will get more sex than you are gonna get on a multi-day vacation with a provider.

3 pages and climbing on this. WOW, just really WOW!!

Always the same. "I would never pay for that intimacy crap so you shouldn't either". Why is it the Fuck 'Em and Forget 'Em crowd can never comprehend there might be some men who appreciate the finer things an escort can provide? Me, I'm greedy and not too proud to admit it. I want to borrow her mind, her body, her smile, her laugh, her complete person when I am with her. It is so much more satisfying an experience.

Originally Posted by BBW Katrina

No, you're not. Good call.

You go girl! Great reply!

[Cpalmson]

I'm sorry ladies, but if the dude is going to pay for her vacation, I see no need for him to compensate her by paying for the BCD time. Now if he wants to give her some spending cash before the trip and during the trip, that is another thing. If someone asked me to go on an all-expense paid vacation, I could care less about the business opportunities that I'd be missing. Going on a trip as the OP described is a once in a lifetime thing.

[rrabbit6926]

I might be mistaken but I doubt a provider would see it as a vacation. Most would see it as a work vacation. Yeah I'm sure there will be plenty of down time but she would be on call for whatever arrangement they made. In the perfect world yeah she would just enjoy it as much as him but we don't live in a perfect world.

[Bijou Neko]

Originally Posted by ywn

Wow! Old-t, ur advices are amazingly detailed and insightful! Thanks so much for the info.

It sounds like I should be ok actually. I don't expect perfection 24/7. I'm ok with paying her some compensation for her loss of income producing time. And yeah, I'm not madly in love. But I definitely have a big crush on her. I just want a normal vacation as if she were my gf. She can get tired, disappointed, pissed and whatever a normal human would feel. In fact, I prefer that over just perfection all the time.

As I'm writing this, I'm realizing that what I really want is a normal boy girl dating relationship. Although, I definitely don't want anything serious. And I don't want this relationship 24/7/365. I just want it here and there, for vacations. Am I targeting the wrong person here then? Should be finding a sugar baby instead of a normal provider?

I think you need to stop right now, sit down with this lady, and clearly define what you want from your association. Don't assume that it's going to morph into a SD/SB arrangement just because you want it to. Of course some providers would be happy to be a SB, but others would see it as a threat to their independence, and others (including me) would see it as potentially leading to the kind of entanglement that is nothing but trouble. There's no way for you to know how this lady feels about it until you discuss it with her. And there's nothing wrong with wanting affection and intimacy- that's what I provide my gentlemen, and I wouldn't have it otherwise. But it's vital to know where the boundaries lie. Those boundaries provide a framework within which we can freely enjoy each other without worrying that we're getting into dangerous territory.

I also agree with the others who've said that if you really want to do this, it would be better to start with a shorter getaway, especially if she doesn't have a lot of experience traveling with clients. A week is a long time to spend with someone if you just aren't feeling it.

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

I'm fine. Glad I could help...

Ya know? I feel that about you! The whole genuinely "Glad to help another" kinda thing. Admirable quality! So thanks again! mwah!

OP: Go make a great vacation story with Provider Wonderful, and come back and share with us! Who doesn't like to read about a positive experience? SO, should it turn out that way, yes indeed.......we wanna know all about it! Have fun!

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by ywn

... Knowing that we get along fairly well for the overnights ...

"Fairly well," you say?

Danger, Will Robinson. Danger!

[MaxiMilyen]

Originally Posted by A.Reader

I want to borrow her mind, her body, her smile, her laugh, her complete person when I am with her. It is so much more satisfying an experience.

If all men had this attitude........wow.... The hobby world would be a wonderful place 24/7/365. I enjoy a greedy client that actually understands this is not as cold and unfeeling a business as some would have the masses believe. What is more personal than intimacy between two people, regardless of how it comes about or how long the intimate relationship lasts?

Thank you and well stated!

[flyinghillbilly]

Guessing that a girl that is hot and good enough to get @400 a hr will want at least 10K for 2 weeks.If you can spring for that and not give it a second thought go for it !!!

[Guest040816-1]

Originally Posted by flyinghillbilly

Guessing that a girl that is hot and good enough to get @400 a hr will want at least 10K for 2 weeks.If you can spring for that and not give it a second thought go for it !!!

^^^What I was thinking. I don't think the OP is thinking those kind of numbers. When he has a dose of reality, I don't think this will be a question any more.

[watchoutthegameisrigged]

Originally Posted by A.Reader
I want to borrow her mind, her body, her smile, her laugh, her complete person when I am with her. It is so much more satisfying an experience.


"If all men had this attitude........wow.... The hobby world would be a wonderful place 24/7/365. I enjoy a greedy client that actually understands this is not as cold and unfeeling a business as some would have the masses believe. What is more personal than intimacy between two people, regardless of how it comes about or how long the intimate relationship lasts?"

That's exactly what I seek out and I usually find it. But you find what you are looking for. I don't throw darts at a list when I choose providers, I do as much as possible to learn something about them via this board and PMs. I enjoy a phone conversation ahead of a session. She tells me a lot about herself by the way she speaks, the tone of her voice and what she says. And she can determine some things about me as well. In the first quote A. Reader uses the term "borrow" and that's key. This is a short term affair, or in the case of ladies I have found I especially enjoy, a series of short term affairs. I don't just look for sex in the hobby, I look for affection and intimacy as well. I know it only lasts for the duration of the session and anything beyond that is dangerous ground. But a lady who makes me feel like her long lost boyfriend for the time I am with her has done her job well and will likely get repeat visits from me. But I still can't see how either of us could maintain that illusion over several days. We want to see people at their best in the hobby and it is very difficult to maintain that 24/7.

But those who have said that the OP needs to have this conversation with the lady potentially involved instead of here are correct.. But I think he is going to be surprised at the compensation she requests for such an extended engagement. A vacation is the absence of work - and she will still be working.