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Guest061511-2 · 07-26-2010, 01:09 AM

I know this is probably vanilla but I have to ask... has anyone ever shed a few tears of joy during or after love making? This has happend to me a few times over the years when I was with someone I had very intense feelings for or loved. Since I don't date much, well at all really, I thought maybe it happend because I'm desensitized or something. Someone once told me when you have sex with someone you exchange energy and/or take on their energy. I should probably just stop analyzing it but I always want to know the why's of everything.

Randy4Candy · 07-26-2010, 04:22 AM

I think you are experiencing a release of pent up, truly intimate emotions and not a little sense of relief. While you may achieve some level of satisfacton from your hobby activities those are on a more superficial level than those of the "very intense feelings for or loved" you refer to. Not desensitized, per se,' but sort of deprived of deep, loving feelings for another. I have always been amazed how people can compartmentalize things but I also believe that we all have an overriding need for true intimacy. The reaction you have is necessary to acheive an over all balance.

Guest061511-2 · 07-26-2010, 08:01 AM

That makes perfect sense. Thanks for your observation. How much do I owe you doc. ?

nosweat · 07-26-2010, 11:00 AM

the art of tantra can be so incredibly pleasing you lose total body and emotional control- rarely happens in this day and age...

Guest061511-2 · 07-26-2010, 11:32 AM

Damnit nosweat. Like I don't have enough hobbies already. Now I'm going to have to explore this tantra. My curiousity is getting the best of me. For now I will stick with my lover he's tantric enough!

nosweat · 07-26-2010, 11:57 AM

Good luck with it-once you buy into it you will be totally rewarded. Yes, it needs to be with someone you have a complete trust with...have fun exploring the tantric arts

Randy4Candy · 07-26-2010, 12:42 PM

That would be a dollar two ninety-eight...

SlowHand49 · 07-26-2010, 01:13 PM

Perhaps this phenomenon is where that old expression, "Fuck me to tears" comes from . . .

petiteassman · 07-26-2010, 02:24 PM

call that greek

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Originally Posted by SlowHand49

Perhaps this phenomenon is where that old expression, "Fuck me to tears" comes from . . .

gamma · 07-26-2010, 06:06 PM

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Originally Posted by BritneyBangs

I know this is probably vanilla but I have to ask... has anyone ever shed a few tears of joy during or after love making? This has happened to me a few times over the years when I was with someone I had very intense feelings for or loved. Since I don't date much, well at all really, I thought maybe it happened because I'm desensitized or something. (snip)

Had this happen to me once; a girl pal of mine broke into tears after sex. Shocked me, but was fairly novel.

Guest061511-2 · 07-26-2010, 06:18 PM

It was just a tear or two. He didn't notice, I don't think.

Wicket · 07-26-2010, 07:33 PM

I actually had a lady start weeping after we had our fun. I actually thought I had hurt her at first, but she reassured me that she was only having a joyful cry. Spooked me at first, but we still see each other.

Randy4Candy · 07-26-2010, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Wicket

I actually had a lady start weeping after we had our fun. I actually thought I had hurt her at first, but she reassured me that she was only having a joyful cry. Spooked me at first, but we still see each other.

Been there, done that, as the now old saying goes. The t-shirt is actually very comfortable, too. Spooky ain't the half of it but if handled well it leads to something that's unlike anything else. The catch, and yes, there's always a catch, is keeping it without stifiling it.

pmdelites · 07-27-2010, 07:37 AM

britney,

i second what randy wrote - sometimes there are emotions underneath that are just crying to get out. and sometimes an intense sexual interaction is the key that unlocks the floodgates [or in your case, faucet]. it's not usually the actual interaction that causes the tears of joy, but it triggers something else that causes the tears.

i've experienced a few non-playtime/hobby partners reacting this way, sometimes a little, sometimes a LOT of tears.
i've experienced only one or two playtime/hobby partners reacting this way, mostly just lasting 10-20 seconds.
i myself have cried a time or two after intense sexual interactions.

as with many emotional reactions, feel it, taste it, smell it, hear it, see it - experience it. DO NOT attempt to shut it down, deny it, bury it. to do so would be to deny/repress a part of you that is wanting to get out into the open. and that is generally not a emotionally healthy thing to do.
but, at the same time, do not obsess with it or over-analyze it. it's just a feeling that arose and is making itself known.
now, if this happens over and over and over, then it might be time to really look at it and explore what is going on in your life that might be causing these emotions.

oh, and btw, no charge. unless you want to cry on my shoulder for a bit after we engage in some intense deliteful sexual interactions.

and btw 2, i'll keep you in mind the next time i head to austin. do let us dallas guys know if you're thinking or planning a visit to our fair city.

Krunkman · 07-27-2010, 07:46 AM

I'm wondering if the issue of showing emotions during a session is embarrassing to some because its a transaction instead of "true" emotional bonding like when you are doing it with your partner/lover?

Do providers find feel they are letting wall come down between their work life and their personal life? I've had the girls I was with say things that I know aren't completely true. And lets be honest, we all know what we do isn't quite the same as doing it someone you have in your life because of choice (we won't count those relationships we'd rather be out of!)

And I'm sure some of us guys develop feelings for the girls that we kick ourselves in the head for later on because it's not real.