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Originally Posted by Dannie
This is the third one I have been in, and even though it is less income than what I could make as a full time provider, it is far more rewarding to me than seeing multiple gentlemen on a day-in, day-out basis. When I am providing full time, I feel like I am spreading myself too thin. It's difficult for me to be 'on' all the time. I feel like I can be myself when exclusive to one hobbyist, instead of being a chameleon catering to widely varied hobbyist preferences every day....it's emotionally draining. The sex is better in my hobby relationship because we have had time to get to know each others likes and dislikes, and we have formed a close friendship...and isn't sex always better when you have some sort of 'closeness' or familiarity with the other person? I am happiest in these type of arrangements, it works for me
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Dannie, I commend you, Lina, and Lynette for adapting to the new reality. Dannie, I also suspect that even though your income is down, my guess is that you have found as I did, the stress induced spending is down as well.
Lauren's post on this subject reminded me of one of the most famous endings in literary history, "Gatsby believed in the green light, the orgastic future that year by year recedes before us. It eluded us then, but that’s no matter — tomorrow we will run faster, stretch out our arms farther... And one fine morning ——So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past."
And a defense of the good ol' days is always going to, in terms of popularity, trump the brave new world.
However, the numbers are what they are. There are six million fewer men in their 40s. And there are three million more women in their 20s than a decade ago, and these women IMO are less likely to have the moral objection to taking money for pleasure that older women had. Furthermore, this nation has seen $10 trillion of wealth go poof in the last three years. So the trends (more women, less demand, and less wealth) are all squarely against the old HDH model.
There was a lot in Lauren's post that I wanted to respond to, but I will just highlight a few points.
Bragging about a woman I pay for is like bragging about catching a big trout in a stocked pond. Neither is worth doing. The comments about my experience with SBs were just to show my personal sample with regards to the quality and quantity of women available today versus ten years ago. It had nothing to do with bragging.
I have not written a review in years.
I can't speak for everyone else, but I certainly am paying for beauty, personality, and sexual thrill. As for character and companionship, I don't know how I am paying for that as I am seeing not the real woman as much as her provider persona.
There was one exception, a provider I was close to, and I think it is fair to say that we became friends. However, even with her, it would be at least a half hour before the provider wall would melt, and she would respond to me more like a friend than a customer.. but I still was a customer.
The irony is that I dumped my Halle Berry SB lookalike over character issues. She had personality, beauty, and BCD skills. If she were only a provider and not a SB, I would probably still be seeing her.
I think that the line that struck me the most was this one though.
"The gentlemen who book higher rates can afford it. Whether it's $200 or $2,000 makes absolutely no difference to them."
Almost every wealthy man I know has had to be a good judge of value. IMO when a man says, it does not matter to him how much something or someone costs, he is being polite.
As I said, I have the opportunity to dine with smart and beautiful women and get paid for doing so, and I suspect that I am far from the only man able to do so.
One time I was dining with a woman and the waiter for some reason took 30 minutes to get the bill. That the woman expected to be paid for this time was pretty annoying. In fact, I think it was the last dinner date that I had.
I know some men like having the most exclusive women by their side at public events and are willing to pay for it. I am not one of them.
The rationale for paying a woman a few hundred dollars an hour to attend an event was based on the fact that the woman could make the same money BCD, and she opted for the event instead. One flaw is that many men like myself could make that money working too.
The other in my case was knowing that the same women would attend an event with a friend or family member and not get paid for her time. I don't know how to pay for such an event and not feel pathetic about doing so.
I can't speak for everyone, but the reason I would take a provider to dinner was the hope that we would get more comfortable with each other, and the event BCD had a chance to be a richer one.
I was glad to see that some women here have accepted that reality and embraced the concept of the clock free night. There should be different rates for time spent BCD and time spent enjoying fine food and drink.
Using the SB model, men now are able to get clock free nights already. I am glad to see some HDHs acknowledge this and offer up a rational alternative.
), but I am currently in an exclusive, mutually beneficial 'arrangement'. And I have come to the conclusion that if I am going to be a provider, for me, this is the only way to go. This is the third one I have been in, and even though it is less income than what I could make as a full time provider, it is far more rewarding to me than seeing multiple gentlemen on a day-in, day-out basis. When I am providing full time, I feel like I am spreading myself too thin. It's difficult for me to be 'on' all the time. I feel like I can be myself when exclusive to one hobbyist, instead of being a chameleon catering to widely varied hobbyist preferences every day....it's emotionally draining. The sex is better in my hobby relationship because we have had time to get to know each others likes and dislikes, and we have formed a close friendship...and isn't sex always better when you have some sort of 'closeness' or familiarity with the other person? I am happiest in these type of arrangements, it works for me, but we are all different.
