Hobbyists falling for providers.

[australian_hell_yun]

In the past I have heard of hobbyists falling for providers. Although there is nothing wrong with it, I just can't see it happening. Is it the illusion? As for myself. I don't pay for a provider to have sex with me, I pay them to leave

[Nicolet]

HA! Thats funny! One of my favorite lines is "I'm the GF of your dreams that you pay to go away!"

[Outdoorsman]

It has happened, I have heard stories of men buying cars, and just giving thousands to the "woman of his dreams." Only to be left hangin when she is through with him and she runs off with a no job, pimp loser boy friend with the hobbyiests cash.

I think these men fell for the illusion as you stated. The true professional escort will not take advantage of a man in that vulnerable state, IMHO she should stop seeing him altogether as to stop causing him any and possibly her further emotional pain. No amount of money is worth causing or feeding off that emotion IMHO.

I just explained to a friend of mine that I was not her boyfriend, and that sex between us had to stop. I did not love her in that way. I kept telling her we were friends with benefits, hanging out. I am fearful I misled her by taking her on trips, etc. etc. I just thought it was the right thing to do because I do not love her. She is looking for a husband and I will never be that to her. It was difficult because the sex was f...ing amazing!!!!! She is smoking HOT!! and did I mention amazing sex!!! She is a civilian lady and I say this to show that I try to practice my beliefs in my own life.

Hobbyiests remember it is a job for her. And when you are at work wouldn't you rather be somewhere else? She prolly has the same thoughts in her head, cuz when she is with me or with you, she is at work. A woman that loves me will not hound me for cars, trips, or money at least until we are a couple, lol.

[Nicolet]

I find it difficult to look at this as a job, it is how I care for my family, but I can say that I have thoroughly enjoyed meeting the gentlemen who call on me. Especially if laughter is involved! Anyone who has spoken to me knows that I LOVE to laugh!

[Outdoorsman]

In my profession, I have some clients that I adore. Usually because they are my easiest clients, I make lots of money and they do not hound or call me five times a day, every day. I love what I do, but like any job, I have those clients that are irritating to say the least, constantly hounding me, and seem to believe I am to dedicate ALL my time to their situation. And then when my bill goes out I get complaining, yada, yada, yada. So, do I have favorite cleints and ones I would rather not see, absolutely.

That is my point, there has to be days when doing what you do is not fun and seeing people you see, you would rather not. I could certainly be one of those men you would prefer not to see, that's all I am saying.

If I am a new client and i show up being fat, bald and whining, I am probably not the guy you want to see again but as a professional that needs an income she agrees to see me again, that's all I am saying. It is a job and in any job there are good days and bad days.

I am glad that providing for your family is enjoyable for you, I really am.

[Guest020312-2]

Don't do it. Just don't even consider falling in love. Not in this business at least. The RL "love" is hard enough why add in all the factors that come with this profession. I personally don't even let my heart flutter when I get certan PM's or calls. I could very easily fall in love with one of my amazing guys but that's not what I am here for. This is not match.com or any other dating sites.

[skeeter]

I heard someone say once ....." I can understand a man marrying a prostitute .... I don't understand the first date"......
I agree with everything hell yun and outdoorsman have said..... And we all need to guard against this ....BUT look how many it has happened to..... If you put the right chemistries together we are human ..... There will be times it happens .... Like it or not....
I will not jeopardize my relationship with my SO ....so I will not get too close to anyone .....but realistically ..... It's gonna happen if the right people meet

[jl11]

As been said, I'm sure it's happened. But what about someone pulling out a ring? That's the real question. Then you'd have to put that up against the chump who bought the car, unless he was worth millions.

[australian_hell_yun]

Love is a fickle thing. I have paid share in divorce attorneys, so therefor I don't see marriage in my future. A friend of mine married a provider. After a few months into their marriage she started providing again. I asked him why. His response was she wanted back in, and the money was good. She wanted him to stay at home and not work.

I then asked him why. He said there was no reason. He replied. They may have her body but I have her heart.

Never the less. I could not do it.

[skeeter]

Originally Posted by australian_hell_yun

Love is a fickle thing. I have paid share in divorce attorneys, so therefor I don't see marriage in my future. A friend of mine married a provider. After a few months into their marriage she started providing again. I asked him why. His response was she wanted back in, and the money was good. She wanted him to stay at home and not work.

I then asked him why. He said there was no reason. He replied. They may have her body but I have her heart.

Never the less. I could not do it.

Nor could I .... I'm too possessive .... Not controlling .... But some toys I don't share well ..... and my wife would be one of those toys.....
But just because you fall in love doesn't mean you want to possess them .... Or marry them ..... You may just have strong caring feelinngs .... And can still have and give freedom ......
People are people and are weak when The heart gets involved ..... We all say i will never do that .... But do we really know????

Hopefully as hobbyists we all stay strong and just have fun .... And don't have to deal with this ......

[Outdoorsman]

Ask any provider or any Hobbyiest that fell in love with someone in this biz, each and everyone I have talked with have told me, that in no way or fashion did they want it to happen, none of them wanted to fall in love with someone in the hobby.

I cannot allow my SO or wife to have sex with another man, I furthermore cannot be with a woman that desires money more than me, it is that simple. If I cannot provide enough then go away!!

I make very good money, more than enough to provide for both of us. She has got to stop providing that simple. Some things are sacred to me, my wife is one of them.

[Nicolet]

As much as I enjoy providing, if I ever met the right guy, I would be gone! Still a hopeless romantic.....

[DallasRain]

.I have quite a few of my "hobby hubbies" I do "love",but it is in a "different" way than a "real life" love

[skeeter]

Originally Posted by DallasRain

.I have quite a few of my "hobby hubbies" I do "love",but it is in a "different" way than a "real life" love

dallas is going to be my wife in my next life....

[Outdoorsman]

Yep, Nic I am a hopeless romantic myself, seems though my romance is wasted on the women in today's society. It seems as I date in the civilian world my flirty efforts and romantic outings are wasted. I just went out of town with a lady friend (civilian), nice $400 dinner, I was in a sports coat and slacks, her in an evening gown, beautiful outdoor atmosphere, bottle of wine, stars out, I flirt and she starts whining about crap back at home, whole evening, bitch, bitch, bitch. Kinda killed my mood.

Hard to be romantic with provider's as well because of the whole clock thing. I like to take my time with a woman and romance her, dine her, seduce her, and then ravish her. It takes a lot longer than an hour or two, lol.