Welcome to ECCIE - Sign up today!

flex16 · 08-10-2011, 01:36 AM

I am new to the hobby and am really interested inmeetin with a provider. But, the providers ask for verification, which I totally agree with, but they ask for 2 provider references. What can I do if i have never been with a provider before? Please help me to be able to enjoy the hobby also...Your help will be very appreciated..thank you

121.5 · 08-10-2011, 03:28 AM

I just started myself. I had to find a lady that was newbie-friendly, and then jump through the screening hoops that she put forward. Now I just need to find another newbie-friendly provider, and then I'll be off and running. I've also been told that P411 is a good investment and I'm looking into that.

Pink Floyd · 08-10-2011, 05:48 AM

P411 is a screening tool for the girls. Bite the bullet and sign up. You are up there in Ignito Isis country.

Still Looking · 08-10-2011, 06:23 AM

Look at show cases that have a phone number. Get them on the phone and be nice. Make them want to see you. Tell them your new and how your looking forward to seeing them. Stay away from show cases that say NOT NEWBIE friendly! Remember, they want to see you, give them a reason to do so!

Sweet N Little · 08-10-2011, 07:06 AM

Welcome Flex
this should help as well

http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?...t=perspectives

have fun!

Maggie McNeill · 08-10-2011, 08:16 AM

Two words: "Newbie friendly." There are a considerable number of girls who so advertise.

Cpalmson · 08-10-2011, 04:32 PM

Here's the painless way to do it (as I did). I simply refuse to see providers that want biographical info on me. I completely understand why they do it, but I've come to find out that most providers rely on their gut instinct more than some formulated screening method. Here's what I did. Find a provider you are interested in. E-mail/talk/whatever you want to call it with her for maybe as long as a month in advance of when you want to see her. Get to know her. More importantly, let her get to know you. Let her get comfortable with you. Ease your way into planning any specific day/time. Most importantly, explain to her that you are unable to provide some of the required information due to privacy concerns-- be up front about that. Be an active participant on the boards. On the other hand, let her know you handle on boars like this. If she sees you participating in discussions, it is another way for her to be comfortable with you. Give it time. It is almost like setting up a real date. Woe the provider. It worked for me. I was able to see several ladies this way. Once I had seen them and reviews them, I joined P411. Since then, I've never had to use a provider's screening process (as long as she's P411). In any case you should have several references if a provider still needs to screen more thoroughly. If you play your cards right and are known enough on boards like this, providers won't even second guess you and will see you based on a solid reputation alone.

Kaci Snow · 08-10-2011, 05:03 PM

They have given some great tips ! I 100% have to agree with getting P-411 it will make things so much easier for you and pretty much stress free for the provider. I for one if im feeling good will see newbiews once in a while , but if im not then i will sometimes refer them to girlfriends of mine whom are my basic build and who see newbies with no problem they go see them and they are then good to go to see me ! That simple you have your 2 ref. hope this helped .

lilred_robin · 08-10-2011, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cpalmson

If you play your cards right and are known enough on boards like this, providers won't even second guess you and will see you based on a solid reputation alone.

Nope.

No way
uh-uh
not gonna happen
No offense, but the owner could contact me by PM and I'd still ask for screening.

Sensia · 08-10-2011, 09:48 PM

P411.com has a pretty thorough screening process and might be of some help to you.

rrabbit6926 · 08-10-2011, 11:35 PM

My advice is see some newbie friendly providers, might want to stay clear of BP. Most providers refuse to use BP providers as a reference. Once you have a few under your belt your golden. Also make sure that the newbie friendly providers you do see are reference friendly, some don't play nice. Being active on boards and getting on P411 or datecheck are also a shoe in once you get established enough.

flex16 · 08-11-2011, 12:35 AM

Tank you all for your replies, I know that they will be very helpful. If there are any providers that read this thread and are newbie friendly, please feel free to send me a quick note and hopefully we can get to know each other enough to feel safe meeting.

Guest082513-02 · 08-11-2011, 01:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lilred_robin

Nope.

No way
uh-uh
not gonna happen
No offense, but the owner could contact me by PM and I'd still ask for screening.

+1000 I refuse to see anyone based on reputation alone. They can go through screening or move on. I bet ole Ted Bundy got through by simply woeing the girls too......jus saying.

Id love to know who doesnt screen but merely just relies on their gut alone. Def be put on my list of unacceptable references

Chica Chaser · 08-11-2011, 02:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

Id love to know who doesnt screen but merely just relies on their gut alone. Def be put on my list of unacceptable references

You would be very surprised, Lacy.

Pink Floyd · 08-11-2011, 05:44 AM

I introduced one guy who I have worked with for years to a couple of girls that I have known a long time and he is now established with them and that is as far as he wants to go in the Hobby because he is married. I will tell you that I was nervous until the girls gave me the thumbs up on him. He took me out to dinner both times after meeting the girls.