Why do some providers not want to be fingered?

[butterflydust]

uhhh... aren't providers simply a subset of the female population at large?

i'm quite sure that there are civilian ladies out there who do not enjoy being fingered.

just sayin'... (yes, i am being ever so slightly cheeky here.)

to echo the statements of many others; it is all about the approach. when approached subtly and sensuously, i actually prefer manual stimulation to DATY -- mainly because when a gentleman is stimulating me manually, i can still kiss him and feel his body close to mine. i enjoy DATY just fine, but it gets lonely for me with nobody to kiss, and after being pressed close to someone for some time, it can get a little chilly too when that warmth is withdrawn...

i'm not going to go into great gobs of detail as this has been expounded on plenty so far; but a slow and gentle approach with lots of sensual teasing beforehand is, of course, best. and of course, all the bits about hygiene are crucial to an enjoyable manual experience... WASH YOUR HANDS WHEN YOU ARRIVE!, trim your nails, etc. etc.

that said, some girls may never enjoy manual stimulation despite the nature of your approach. and that's cool. it's simply a matter of figuring out what they DO enjoy. stimulation does not necessarily have to be directly sexual to bring pleasure.

[guest042111]

Am I the only one here that would rather make out and be fingered than have someone lick my clit? I like to spread my legs and get fucked with a finger...if me and the guy are foolin' around I have nor problem directing his hand down there.

[Madame X]

Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

This is NOT rocket science.

Brain surgery neither... unless you're really, *really* bad at it.

On that subject, I would also like to remind the gents that you're not digging for gold up there... G-spot is about 3-4" up, against the front wall. Not at the top.

I dig your new avatar Mr. Mod

~Mme X~

[82Vinny]

AGAIN, Nails Nasty Men nails. They work with their hand's. Well at least the best of them do. Regardless if they are trimmed down, we don't know how many times you have washed them so... Pardon me here is some hand Sanitizer and please me on the outside unless I know you or You Just know Better!!!!! Be a Gent Not a slob Thanks! P.S Dirt under nails? A real woman looks at your hands to see how clean you keep them. That Just says what kind Of Man You ARE!

[Jamie1234]

Germs more exposure. You may have microscopic cuts and inserting them could transmit things. High enough risk industry most want to limit as much as they can their exposure to STI's and STD's. If you put a condom on your fingers..... I know it sounds extreme but safety is really the most important thing. Just thought I would mention why I thought ladies may not want people inserting their fingers...

[LynnT]

I personally like oral with a bit of 1 finger action at the same time after your down there a couple minutes.

Always start gentle and clean.

[Mature Companion]

What some men fail to understand. Is that what *they* consider foreplay. Some women consider a turn off and NOT foreplay.

It's always best to ask the lady what SHE wants via ways of foreplay & pleasure. Don't just do what turns you the man on or what you consider foreplay in your mind.