WHORE!

[Guest062114-5]

Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

Or add it to your sig line.

If I change my sig line however will people know that I've made it through the wilderness and that I've been Touched for the very first time?

[SpiceItUp]

[spear88]

Wow this thread has been going on a long time. Can we all agree that some of us are whores, and some of us love to shag whores? BTW the dirtier the better.

[Russ38]

Originally Posted by spear88

Wow this thread has been going on a long time. Can we all agree that some of us are whores, and some of us love to shag whores? BTW the dirtier the better.

Absolutely S88.....it all comes down to individual perception....some realize that, some never will......

[Unique_Carpenter]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

If I change my sig line however will people know that I've made it through the wilderness and that I've been Touched for the very first time?

If you wish to feel Shiny and New, does that not also mean that you have to give up the life experiences that have made you the woman that you are? Thus, how would you then qualify as a Provocatrix? Or can life emulate a Kafka movie?

[Guest062114-5]

Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

If you wish to feel Shiny and New, does that not also mean that you have to give up the life experiences that have made you the woman that you are? Thus, how would you then qualify as a Provocatrix? Or can life emulate a Kafka movie?

You're right. When I find a good Provocatrix avatar, I'll change my sig line...

[blowpop]

Well said. Humans react to the connotation of a word. The tone deaf will argue ad absurdum about the denotation, and will miss the point entirely.

The connotation of a word is solidified by the method of its delivery and the context in which it is used. The mindset of the listener can be taken into account when it is known, but when speaking to a large audience (as is done on Eccie) it becomes nearly impossible, and the wise err on the side of caution... unless they're trying specifically to inflame.

Thus when I call a woman a "whore" when we're playing D/s roles, I'm giving her what she wants in that context. It's not an insult, it's a sexually-charged term that is designed to excite her. In short, a positive thing. When a calls a provider a whore on Eccie, it's often meant as a way to "remind her of her place", and is meant as something far from positive.

And that's the crux of this. There are folks here (both providers and hobbyists) who seem to get great pleasure out of inflaming or insulting others. It says far more about them than it does the target of their words. What's sad are those that aren't man/woman enough to own up to doing it, and would prefer to blame the target of their vitriol instead of taking responsibility for their own words.

Some of us come to Eccie in order to find playmates for short-term encounters. Some come her in order to insult others in an attempt to make themselves feel significant and powerful by trying to put others down.

Every time you read an insult, don't get mad. Feel sorry for the pitiful little man (or woman) who is so powerless that he has to resort to the anonymous insulting of strangers on a hobby board in order to feel like he matters, and maybe feel a tiny bit better about himself.

These poor saps don't deserve your scorn - they deserve your pity.

Originally Posted by LexusLover

That shifts the burden away from the responsible party ... the person speaking it.

I could apply the same standard to racial slurs. Meaning it's not the speaker's fault if someone is offended by a racial slur. That is simply not the case in our society.

Whether it is offensive or meant to be offensive depends on the SPEAKER and the CONTEXT in which the offending reference is made.

And that includes "son of a bitch" ... as well.

And Mojo, just because someone finds typically offensive words and phrases "acceptable" in a particular situation, like a sexual encounter or romantic environment with a particular person doesn't mean they "ought not to be" offended when outside of those circumstances. It is not "hypocritical," because the circumstances are factually distinguishable.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

LL.... What happens when people assign their own perceptions of a word that isn't meant to be offensive? Is it the responsibility of the person to find out if the words he uses are offensive to the people he's speaking to or is it the responsibility of the people being spoken to to adjust their reaction to it?

If I know my intentions were not to insult then why should I have to censor myself?

If I know it will insult the person I'm directing it towards then I will absolutely take that into consideration. I think my post history shows that. However if I'm directing my comment to certain people I know will take it the way I intended I'm not censoring myself just cause others it wasn't meant for wont like it.

Words have meanings. Words have common connotations.

What you say makes perfect sense, as long as you're using these terms in private messages, not public posts. You can't assume that everyone who reads the post will know you our your posting history, and thus the opportunity to offend is significant.

I have a good Asian friend who greets me with "Hello, my nigga". He knows I accept it as one of his quirks, but he's savvy enough not to say this when we're in earshot of anyone else, because of the obvious emotional charge of the word. I know he doesn't mean it to be offensive, so I'm not offended, but I do wish he'd stop doing it.

Some folks absolve themselves of responsibility and pretend to be tone deaf, blaming the listener who misunderstands them. My take on this is that they're being passive aggressive: "Who, me? I didn't mean anything by that! You should have known."

I don't buy it from my teenage nephew. I don't buy it from adults on Eccie, either.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by LexusLover

It is founded upon respect for others first, and not putting one's self-interests first.

This is the crux of the issue. It speaks to the person's character.

Character is how you treat someone who is not in a position to help or harm you. It's how you behave when there are no consequences to your behavior.

An anonymous message board like Eccie is the ultimate consequence-free environment.

So we end up with a place where we can observe the true character of the members by what they choose to post here. The results are pretty damn obvious.

[notanewbie]

Originally Posted by LilMynx69

If I change my sig line however will people know that I've made it through the wilderness and that I've been Touched for the very first time?

Mynx, let's just fuck like good little whores and get it over with. Plus we may just have some fun.

[blowpop]

Originally Posted by KeepinItReal

You retard, that's from a song by Drake and I listen to the shit daily. Yes, I do talk like this at work sometimes, kinda goes with the territory. No, I don't speak like that in front the kiddos, they would repeat that shit at school and wifey would be pissed and my mom knows I curse but I respect her house..

So "keepin' it real" is strutting around and talking smack when there are no consequences, but cowering like a good little bitch around the kids, wife, and mommy?

Damn, playa'. You is one tough gangsta.

[1WhiteKnight]

The definition is hidden in the intent, on which the word was spoken!
Haters Go Away!
If someone means well, then it's OK! Right?
So if I'm pulling her hair while she's doing a ten inched swirling tongued BJ, and I yell out! You Whore, while slapping her but!
Does she bite? IJS?

[KeepinItReal]

Originally Posted by blowpop

So "keepin' it real" is strutting around and talking smack when there are no consequences, but cowering like a good little bitch around the kids, wife, and mommy?

Damn, playa'. You is one tough gangsta.

Who said a damn thing about being a gangsta, because I like a certain kind of music, really? Maybe in my younger days, when we thought slanging and banging was cool, but I grew it

I do like to fuck WHORES though, just like you do

[Jusanotherdude]

Originally Posted by blowpop

Words have meanings. Words have common connotations.

.............
I have a good Asian friend who greets me with "Hello, my nigga".
............
I don't buy it from my teenage nephew. I don't buy it from adults on Eccie, either.

Oh my word.... PLEASE!! Let's not go there.... not even remote parallels or whatever...... NOT the same....Not even close.... lets keep that bell un rang......

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Nowhere near close.