NEED TO VENT

[babykins78]

Why is it that once a guy becomes a regular they think they can talk down a girls price....i know it makes me feel like I am good enough to make u want to come back but you a cheap ass and don't want to pay for the quality you are receiving.....i feel my prices are fair and on the low end already for the services i provide...and some cheap ass wants to try and make me into a cheap W****.....how would some of u deal with ppl like this?

[eyecu2]

Well I think that cheap is a relative term. Let's assume you normally charge 150, but your regular john, who's particularly horny, has only 100-120 in the hobby fund account. Would you rather have the money he has vs none due to holding out got the whole amount? I don't think there has to be a hard and fast (no pun intended) rule on cash. I'd think that a regular situation can work when both parties agree that in the case by case situation that the fee is still important but flexible. Providers fuck for cash, and johns pay cash to fuck. I'd be more upset with first timers trying to negotiate it down. Make sense?

[babykins78]

I don't mind helping a regular once in awhile. ...price is $120 an hr and I will do $100....but this guy is trying to pay my 30 mins price and wanting an hr every time we meet.....

[Chincho]

It's perception, your presentation, confidence and seduction skills determine value. If a man doesn't have another $50 to spare he can't afford any hooker at any price. If you have confidence in your value cheap bastards oughta be a minor irritation or a source of occasional humor not cause for a drama thread. If there's a disconnect between what you think and what the overwhelming majority of clients and potential clients think your worth you should stand in front of a mirror and look at two things your exterior and your interior and either make changes or move onto something else

Btw this thread further cheapens your image.

[babykins78]

Thank you chincho...i posted it mostly to vent and get options from others because I am still new to the hobby world ...i am looking for more advise and help on how to deal with cases like this. ...i think my major issue with this guy is even though I did agree to meet with him at his price he cancled......like I said I am just frustrated....i don't mind negotiations. ..ask some of the guys I have met with....but he was more demanding then negotiating....and I guess that is what bothered me

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[ck1942]

His cancellation, especially if virtually no notice deserves some exploration on your part and definitely some explanation on his part. Probably not in this thread.

Quite likely he may have a decent explanation = family or business emergency.

If, on the other hand, he cancelled in order to see someone else (better deal or not!) he deserves some reporting to the other ladies.

In fact, if he is a notorious haggler, quite likely some of the other ladies he haggles with have already reported to you on that. If nothing else, you should ask who ever his references were for some updates and possibly share your frustrations privately with them.

= = = =

My personal philosophy is that "The Hobby" is a partnership between willing parties to the event. That the ladies have way more "skin in the game" than do the gents.

My expectation is that this partnership can and will be respected by both sides.

However, I am a realist, and I know that the above is nowhere near 100 percent reality, and I believe those who fall way outside the above parameters should suffer consequences both private and public.

[babykins78]

Wish i could put a warning on him but he is not on eccie. ..he said he cancled because he wanted to and it's not the first time either....i guess that's what I get when I post on bp....but is a girl to do before she gets verified here....lol

[Chincho]

Just tell him if he can't afford your pussy he can put a laptop on a pillow beside his head and jack off for free to any eccie showcase he chooses.

[ck1942]

Baby, you are verified here and thus you should be able to post info in the ladies only infoshare and (my hunch is) well likely he has a persona here ... might even be well known too.

[babykins78]

What I ment was he found me on bp a long time ago....and he doesn't know of eccie because I have asked him about it before....yes I am verified now but I wasn't when he found me

[Camille Fox]

Is this the type of client you want? If the answer is no, just say no to his haggling or to any future appt requests. If you can deal with the situation, move on and tell him if he continues to waste your time, you won't see him again and end of the story.

What threads like this do, although I can fully sympathize with your frustration, is alianate potential GOOD clients. If he's not here on ECCIE, that you know of, this thread does you no favors. If he IS on ECCIE, this thread will, very likely, do nothing to change his behavior. He is very unlikely to have an epiphany here.

Good luck and you know where you can safely vent if needed.


Camille

[babykins78]

I did tell him nicely not to waste my time....and now that I am on eccie and verified. ...i am trying to ween out the guys from my early days that haggle like this and stick with eccie guys...i found they are more reliable

[inspector farquar]

Originally Posted by babykins78

I did tell him nicely not to waste my time....and now that I am on eccie and verified. ...i am trying to ween out the guys from my early days that haggle like this and stick with eccie guys...i found they are more reliable

Excellent strategy. Best wishes.

[Harley Diablo]

Based on your fees and services, ask if the letters KMA mean anything to him.

KISS MY ASS

Do not lower your rates, just keeping giving good service and you want miss him.