Are we made to be with only 1 individual?

[Island_Gent]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

Compartmentalizing when lying still just that... lying. It's a coping mechanism for cowards to push aside their conscience and do what makes them happy while shitting on someone else's trust and feelings. Guilt is a healthy emotion to feel most times. It is what calibrates our inner moral compass.

I'll forgive your coward remarks since you're clueless as to how the SO and I get down. Or what kind of understanding we have.

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

Question: Would you compartmentalize it if you found out that your SO was sucking mad dick on the low low are throwing money behind it to boot? If the answer is yes, pardon me now, but I would venture to say no. Would you let it go and say, "Babe don't worry about it ..it's okay" without giving her any shit about it considering you enjoy the same thing? Again I would venture to say no. Mainly because people are selfish naturally and because your mind will automatically go back to all the times she has said that she would never sleep with anyone else.

Hmm...I'd have to give that some thought.

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

If fucking whores makes you happy, I say have at it. But there is no need to apologize to anyone including yourself if it's a choice that you choose to make. It's your money, and it's your dick. Why men think that women want to be fed a line of horseshit confuses the fuck out of me. What part of love and romance and trust does that come from?

Not entirely sure where it was I was apologising because admittedly, I'm an unapologetic slut. Always have been. It has caused some consternation in previous relationships, but I feel as long as there is an understanding. And discretion.

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

This is why some people are unhappy in their lives... they feel the pressure to hide and be ashamed all the damn time. I prefer the Frank Sinatra method: I do it my way. The guy who I'm involved with right now I told him from the beginning,"Even if I do get married I do not see myself only having sex with one person for the rest of my life." Not only is it boring as hell, but I do not want to paint myself into a corner when knowing full and damn well how I feel about it. If ever there comes a day when he can't deal with that or wants someone who can just be with only him he has a choice and is more than free to find the door. It's not being insensitive, it's just being plain and utterly honest. But I know, I know, honesty doesn't sound as good as all that flowery bullshit.

Babygirl no bullshit, I'm actually living the dream, I have the best of all worlds.

I'm glad your thing works for you, but this shit works for me, and when it becomes too much a chore or stops working, I'll step away.

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

No Shave baby. You're right I don't have any idea how you in the air so get down. My comment was very specific. Compartmentalizing while lying. If your compartmentalizing and the truth is already known, that's not what I was referring to as a coping mechanism for cowards. Perhaps I should have put the emphasis on "while lying".

Everyone's entitled to do whatever works for them. What you eat don't make me shit. Have a great day babe. :bottomsup:

[Island_Gent]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

No Shave baby. You're right I don't have any idea how you in the air so get down. My comment was very specific. Compartmentalizing while lying. If your compartmentalizing and the truth is already known, that's not what I was referring to as a coping mechanism for cowards. Perhaps I should have put the emphasis on "while lying".

Everyone's entitled to do whatever works for them. What you eat don't make me shit. Have a great day babe. :bottomsup:

Ok...thanks for clearing that up ma...all the best to you.

[SpiceItUp]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

What you eat don't make me shit.

...and who you fuck don't make me cum

Never judge a man until you walk a mile in his moccasins right? People do whatever they do for their own reasons as long as they can sleep at night.

If it doesn't work for them they'll do something different. Personally I don't spend alot of time thinking about or giving weight to whatever "society" might think of my actions, inside the hobby and out of it. I'll decide for myself what's ok with me, particularly since many of the cultural mores in western society are so heavily influenced by Judeo-Christian ideas of morality.

Married or not, cheating or not, every single one of us here in this hobby, client and provider alike, are basically a degenerate where "polite society" is concerned.

Life's too short to give a fuck.

[maineblame]

Everyone lies at one point right? So we're all past or current cowards?

Maybe were brave enuff not to hurt someone who's not equipped to deal with a non-societal norm? Do I have to tell my SO everything I do ? Or just what society deems important to divulge. There are women who hobby too and they would be more equip to understand the secrecy

Did u run and tell ur parents every time u jerked off ? Were u a coward for not bringing it up at dinner? Some things are best left unsaid. Just because u created a union doesn't mean u have to forget ur identity . Ppl who hobby are unique and not like a lot of the SO they are with. But u can still love someone and have different hobbies

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

I have never been one to give a damn about what society or anyone else says. The majority is usually wrong. So when most people go left, I usually go right.

The main factor of what I'm saying is not telling anyone all your damn business or divulging what you choose to do in privacy.. It's the flat out, bold faced LYING. There is nothing brave about that. You'd do better off being quiet about it or choosing not to answer one way or another, than LYING about it and turning around and doing it anyhow. Especially if you expect the other person to do what you yourself choose not to. We're all grown to different degrees. If you feel or felt like what you are doing is right, there's no need to lie about it when asked, right?

It doesn't make anyone a bad person. It doesn't make you a good one either. But it doesn't make you a bad one. Lying and going the extra mile to lie about and justify it does, though.Blaming the other person makes you doubly pig-shit in my eyes. Just accept what it is and move on until you do or are able to make change. I'm a whore (sometimes now) because I want to be; that's what I CHOOSE to do; blaming life's circumstances or events on it does not change that fact. Accept that you're a lying cheating motherfucker and move on. Excuses are my pet peeve. There are reasons, and then there are excuses. Reasons make rational sense, excuses are just bullshit used to negate bad behavior that people want to be able to continue.

Don't be down.. Lying cheating motherfucker or not, I'd still fuck you anyways. Just don't try to pump me full of your bullshit at the same time.

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

. Question: Would you compartmentalize it if you found out that your SO was sucking mad dick on the low low are throwing money behind it to boot? If the answer is yes, pardon me now, but I would venture to say no. Would you let it go and say, "Babe don't worry about it ..it's okay" without giving her any shit about it considering you enjoy the same thing? Again I would venture to say no.

Originally Posted by Island_Gent

Hmm...I'd have to give that some thought.

Please, lets not bullshit each other. We both know the answer to that already.

Originally Posted by Island_Gent

Ok...thanks for clearing that up ma...all the best to you.

All the best to you and yours also.

[Guest021817-2]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

I have never been one to give a damn about what society or anyone else says. The majority is usually wrong. So when most people go left, I usually go right. .

Wait.... You do? Do you have a tell when you are thinking about it, ya' know, got look at the foot with a missing toe or the finger without the ring? Just curious...

I still don't know left from right.

[Wakeup]

They're all just scared, hypocritical, weak little children...their continued justifications just highlight how much of a pussy they all are...

It doesn't matter if we're "made" to be with one individual or not. What matters is that you willingly, in front of your wife, your family, your friends, and your god, promised to do so...and then broke that promise without telling her...

Well done...men...

[oilfieldscum]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

They're all just scared, hypocritical, weak little children...their continued justifications just highlight how much of a pussy they all are...

It doesn't matter if we're "made" to be with one individual or not. What matters is that you willingly, in front of your wife, your family, your friends, and your god, promised to do so...and then broke that promise without telling her...

Well done...men...

So you've found religion now?

[maineblame]

Originally Posted by Wakeup

They're all just scared, hypocritical, weak little children...their continued justifications just highlight how much of a pussy they all are...

It doesn't matter if we're "made" to be with one individual or not. What matters is that you willingly, in front of your wife, your family, your friends, and your god, promised to do so...and then broke that promise without telling her...

Well done...men...

Everyone's relationship has different intricacies which can not be boiled down to ur tunnel vision perception of black or white. Fear has nothing to do with trying to preserve LTR without sharing My Own Personal secrets. As long as emotions are not involved and I'm safe.

If ur so brave and honest why don't u Out urself u have nothing to hide right?

[JohnnyYanks]

Originally Posted by maineblame

Everyone's relationship has different intricacies which can not be boiled down

Yo, lying and cheating on your life's partner can be boiled down. Use all the euphemisms you want but they all end up spelling the same thing: PUSSY!

p.s., There's an argument to be made, but yours aint it.

[maineblame]

Is it lying if I don't volunteer info??? If I'm asked I will tell the truth but I'm speaking about secrecy ......what u don't know won't hurt u ....unless it's cancer

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Heh... this is going to turn out well.

[Guest021817-2]

Originally Posted by Hottentot Venus

Heh... this is going to turn out well.

Bitch....

My little toe hurts.... I don't wanna argue with ya' I just wann see if it will fit.