a lover versus just fuckin?

[ivy_rose]

Originally Posted by cinderbella

I am definitely NOT "talking shit", nor do I use that sort of terminology. Congratulations for finding this aspect out in your 20's. Sky is the limit.

I didn't think you were which is why I said I was referring to other threads and not to you. I wasn't trying to offend you. I try to avoid board drama but wanted to comment about a young providers point of view in this case because a lot of the time I don't specifically because it's a negative atmosphere and I thought in this case it wasn't.

[Jack$lit]

[italia]

Originally Posted by Raikage

Maybe you should find yourself a woman who loves you so you can actually have that kind of sex, you know ... get in an actual relationship. These girls aren't paid to be A+ actresses.

A friend of mine once said, he'd never forget a special quote his father wanted him to always remember.

"The two most dangerous women are a stripper and a prostitue, one of them is the wolds greatest con artist and the other the worlds greatest actress."

So in a sense, yes we are paid very well to act and play roles

I say " Be careful when you have the two in one, you'll end up a broken hearted fool in love with empty pockets. "

Mind you, there are male strippers and prostitues

Maybe its not a relationship he's looking for, but the foolishness of the illusion offered

Ps. Ur mean, ive been reading your threads and comments. Aye caramba let some steam out the blow horn papi

[VictoriaLyn]

Originally Posted by OralPassion

Sydmo, I 100% empathize!

I didn't join this site to bust a nut, I joined it to have boyfriend/girlfriend time now and then.
I joined it to adore, worship and please the beautiful art that is a woman.

I miss out on seeing a bunch of women because I want to talk prior to scheduling to see if we're on the same page and we'll BOTH enjoy the time.
But most don't care about a good match - they just want to do the deed and get their donation.
And there is nothing wrong with that, this is after all, a business.

It's just frustrating trying to find the one's that want a bfe/gfe session rather than a hooker/john session.
I know this is a generalization but my experience and observations have led me to conclude that the best chance of experiencing a bfe/gfe session is with the gals who have real-world full-time jobs and are here because they love bcd romance and figure why not pick up some extra coin while doing something enjoyable.

One Provider was on my mind throughout this writing - I hope she see's this thread and contributes her insight...

I get exactly what you are saying...I for one like when a guy takes the time to chat a little before we met and also express what he is looking for in a session as it gets us both on the same page and the right frame of mind...gfe..vs pse..vs wam bam ...

[SA Angel]

I honestly used to do those type of sessions almost exclusively. I still refuse to fake orgasms or change my personality to suit my client. I no longer default to this type of experience because it does get exhausting to emotionally engage yourself with someone new and make yourself fall in love for an hour or two as a provider.

Sure if the signs are pointing to "I need to feel loved" the game is on...but many first time clients are just making sure you actually like having sex with them. You walk into my bedroom, I'm using you as my personal sex toy to my own satisfaction as a matter of course.

To quote Marion Collitard - "I keep the emotions real. That's why it works."

[Loxly]

There's absolutely a difference between "making love" and getting your rocks off. Some might refer to it as that illusive IOP we look for in Providers. Yet it can be dangerous when the illusion becomes real, at least in your mind. Maybe even in her mind as well.

I once told a Provider, "Let's make love like we're the last two people on earth." She asked if she could shoot herself when we finished. Oh well. At least she kept it real.

The tough part is knowing when the curtain comes down on the fantasy

[sydmo]

SA Angel, good stuff Beautiful

[Britttany_love]

I love the passionate GFE side.. dfk, carresing the cuddling, the convo the IOP! However I also love the GFE+ side with alittle PSE the dirty naughty.. touch of pse.. sloppy.. dirty talk, cum play etc. To me it all depends on the chemistry between both parties. Im not a good faker nor do I enjoy it. Chemistry is important and that is what make things 100 times better!!

[Claire She Blows]

Originally Posted by italia

A friend of mine once said, he'd never forget a special quote his father wanted him to always remember.

"The two most dangerous women are a stripper and a prostitue, one of them is the wolds greatest con artist and the other the worlds greatest actress."

So in a sense, yes we are paid very well to act and play roles

I say " Be careful when you have the two in one, you'll end up a broken hearted fool in love with empty pockets. "

Mind you, there are male strippers and prostitues

Maybe its not a relationship he's looking for, but the foolishness of the illusion offered

Ps. Ur mean, ive been reading your threads and comments. Aye caramba let some steam out the blow horn papi

*looks lovingly at all of the Oscars on the mantle*
Why, whatever are you speaking of???

[Whispers]

Originally Posted by italia

....a prostitute is the worlds greatest actress."

Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

*looks lovingly at all of the Oscars on the mantle*
Why, whatever are you speaking of???

LOL..... and you wonder why it is you were alone on Christmas....... Why he went back to his wife...

Not every skill is worth being proud of or bragging about..... Once a guy sees you for what you are he leaves.....


Some guys do tend to get lost in the illusion.... they all eventually find their way out

[FirePhoenix]

Whimpy you keep forgetting that there is more than one hobbiest that went back to their wife. So please be an equal opportunity offender. At this point whimpy all you are doing is showing how much tunnel vision you have and there for make no point other then to show who you choose to dislike. BIG F*CKINGE DEAL. World's smallest violin playing now.

[nuglet]

Originally Posted by Whispers

LOL....

Some guys do tend to get lost in the illusion.... they all eventually find their way out

Sounds just like Disneyland's game plan.. it works for some, maybe longer , maybe shorter, but it still works!!!

[gr3s18]

I'll just throw this in. I'm looking for the same thing, some type of connection. I believe you do have to build a "relationship" by becoming a type of regular.

I have a friend who unfortunately is now engaged, but she was a waitress at a club in San Antonio and now works at palazio and we got to know each other. She was broke at one point and agreed to meet. We didn't discuss $$ originally, I just booked a hotel and we met. I had 300 on the table, we had 2 hours and she had to go get her kids. After that, she'd text when she might be open, and we'd hook up. After the a few times, the sex got even better and I think it was because of the conv available by being regular. She's not a regular provider and doesn't count on my money to pay all her bills.

Thats hard to replace here, but there are several ladies on this thread who seem open to the same concept.

[Alana kay]

Originally Posted by Britttany_love

I love the passionate GFE side.. dfk, carresing the cuddling, the convo the IOP! However I also love the GFE+ side with alittle PSE the dirty naughty.. touch of pse.. sloppy.. dirty talk, cum play etc. To me it all depends on the chemistry between both parties. Im not a good faker nor do I enjoy it. Chemistry is important and that is what make things 100 times better!!

exactly.

[Britttany_love]

Originally Posted by Alana kay

exactly.