Avoiding racism

[George,Curious]

Moderators-please understand this is a real question and issue that i am seeking advise to. This is in no way satire or an attempt to single out any persons based on title 9 standards. Seeking help from the community.


So i have an odd question and looking for a way to aproach this personal issue without coming across as a racist, because i am not one. I hate everyone pretty much equally, except the moderators. We all LOVE our mods.

If my description comes across as racist i assure you it is not intended to be.

There is one race of beautiful women i dont usually see, black. It has nothing to do with skin tone. Some of them smell funky. I cant decribe since I only smell it around them and only a few of them. I want to say the smell is from the oils they produce and its not their fault at all, just genetics. This is the issue.

The problem is i have no way to filter those who procude this smell from those who do not. I have spent the better part of a year trying to figure out what to say that is neither rude or sound like a bigot.

Has anyone else experienced this smell and or issue dealing with another race? How did you over come this challenge? What have/can you said to overcome the possible bigoted and rude approach to this?

Any help would be appreciated. There are some seriously beautiful black women out there i would love to get acquainted with.

Of course there is a possibility that you all dont have this and its a stupid genetic trait all to me.

[Dorian Gray]

: facepalm :
Alright, let me put this in simpleton....

Just because someone [you] doesn’t mean to be racist doesn’t automatically mean they’re not saying or doing something racist

It boils down to; people don’t experience your intent, they experience your actions. So even if you meant no harm, if what you said or do comes off as stereotyping or treating a group a certain way, that’s the impression they'll have

To take it away from racism, here's an example of intent v. impact....
Two dudes get drunk, then get into a heated argument. One pulls a strap on the other, cause alcohol. Tussle occurs. Someone gets shot. Taken to the hospital. Dies. Police don't care about their intent in proving MJ would be a beast in the modern NBA. They're catching a manslaughter charge

Back to racism.
Racism isn’t always loud, in your face, or obvious. It’s not just slurs or lynching or straight up hate. Most of it is subtle, like assumptions you don’t even realize you’re making.... Or blatantly are in this case. Everybody picks it up from their environment over time

& when someone says “I didn’t mean it like that” it sounds like you're brushing off how it affects other people. A better move is just being like “Aight, I didn’t see it that way, but I get how it came across”

End of the day, it’s less about proving you’re not racist & more about being willing to check yourself if something you said or did is offensive

That’s really all people are getting at when they say it’s about impact over intent.

[Holedriller]

I love all flavors and races. I especially love brown, asian and hispanic. Black has shown me some of the most memorable pleasures as have white. blond or ginger haired lasses. However, I stand by the true statement that I am an equal opportunity racist. If you are racist or otherwise unscrupulous person, then I will denounce you and your acts.

[George,Curious]

Originally Posted by Dorian Gray

: facepalm :
Alright, let me put this in simpleton....

Just because someone [you] doesn’t mean to be racist doesn’t automatically mean they’re not saying or doing something racist

It boils down to; people don’t experience your intent, they experience your actions. So even if you meant no harm, if what you said or do comes off as stereotyping or treating a group a certain way, that’s the impression they'll have

To take it away from racism, here's an example of intent v. impact....
Two dudes get drunk, then get into a heated argument. One pulls a strap on the other, cause alcohol. Tussle occurs. Someone gets shot. Taken to the hospital. Dies. Police don't care about their intent in proving MJ would be a beast in the modern NBA. They're catching a manslaughter charge

Back to racism.
Racism isn’t always loud, in your face, or obvious. It’s not just slurs or lynching or straight up hate. Most of it is subtle, like assumptions you don’t even realize you’re making.... Or blatantly are in this case. Everybody picks it up from their environment over time

& when someone says “I didn’t mean it like that” it sounds like you're brushing off how it affects other people. A better move is just being like “Aight, I didn’t see it that way, but I get how it came across”

End of the day, it’s less about proving you’re not racist & more about being willing to check yourself if something you said or did is offensive

That’s really all people are getting at when they say it’s about impact over intent.

Did you even read the post or just made assumptions based solely off the thread title?

[George,Curious]

Originally Posted by Holedriller

I love all flavors and races. I especially love brown, asian and hispanic. Black has shown me some of the most memorable pleasures as have white. blond or ginger haired lasses. However, I stand by the true statement that I am an equal opportunity racist. If you are racist or otherwise unscrupulous person, then I will denounce you and your acts.

Did you read the post or just the title???

[FBSMLUVR]

Well, this is something…

[Holedriller]

Yes I read your post and I provided my thoughts on your subject.

[George,Curious]

So instead of providing guidance in apporaching my problem you choose to judge. Where judging us not even a premise of the thesis.

Remember the topic is avoiding racism, not judge me becuase i am trying to find a way to be more inclusive.

So insted of you waiting to denouce me for something that i inherently do not possess, ill denounce you now as someone who lives in a glass house who throws stones.

Thank you for your input and insight into who you are.

[Holedriller]

George,
You need to put on your big boy panties and get a life.

[BBQ-Guy]

just smear a little vicks salve up in your nostrils before the session....problem solved.
I've done it with white girls who are a great fuck but sometimes have an odor i don't care for