Newbie at a Loss

[nebur]

I'm new to the hobby. I located a provider who was very very well reviewed and newbie friendly. I called her and we set up a meeting for later in the evening. I left my donation of $$ on the dresser sat on the bed and TALKED for an HOUR. She initiated nothing like what I read in her reviews. Is this the type of protocol all newbies go through their first time?

[canyonman]

No, it isn't. But you my friend have been taken advantage of but have to hand it to the lady that got $$ for sitting on her ass and talking for an hour. After about 10 minutes you should have dropped a hint... like shedding your clothes, I'm betting she would have followed suit.

Better luck next time...

[Maxx]

nebur, sorry to say .. not that I'm aware of. Obviously something wasn't right. Did she know of your newbieness? You need to take some initiative and start things off. Most providers knowing you were a newbie would have started working with you a bit to get things going. But, time is all you pay for, anything else that happens is between 2 consenting adults. Keep trying, I'm sure you'll get a better response from another provider. Good luck and hobby safe!

[Marcus78]

I would post an alert if I were you. That is bullshit! I hope it was a BP girl and not someone on this board. I think you got hosed dude. Find the next one and move on. Nothing else you can do except provide info. and let the rest of us know who we need to avoid.

Then again, you are just paying for their time aren't you! LOL

[Laz]

Write a review but stay factual. Do not let opinions get in the way. Unless the provider had reason to believe you were LE she did a lousy job.

[nebur]

Well I just came into this as a newbie and don't want to be listed as a troublemaker. Her reviews are IMPRESSIVE and the other hobbyist swear by her accomplishments.

[Marcus78]

Dude, write the review! I was in the same spot as you about 1.5 years ago when I wrote a very honest, very negative review on a local provider. I took some flak from her and then it was over. What it did do was start a chain of people being honest saying yeah, my time was kinda shitty too and I didn't write a review, didn't want to be labeled as a trouble maker, etc.

The point is, the only way we'll know to avoid this woman is for you to provide the info. You will take some grief from her or a White Knight hell-bent on defending her honor, but that is it. Please write the review and help everyone out!

[Khloe Jay]

If she had reviews, and good ones, maybe she thought you were LE! Usually though, for me if I think it's LE and I am not comfortable, I just let the guy know it and I don't take their money! To Avoid this from happening find a provider that you like who is newbie friendly and give her the information that she needs for screening. Once a girl knows that you are Ok and she is comfortable, there should be no reason to sit around and chat for an hour..sorry about your experience.

[nebur]

Originally Posted by Marcus78

I would post an alert if I were you. That is bullshit! I hope it was a BP girl and not someone on this board. I think you got hosed dude. Find the next one and move on. Nothing else you can do except provide info. and let the rest of us know who we need to avoid.

Then again, you are just paying for their time aren't you! LOL

No she was someone from the board VERY well reviewed.

[nebur]

Originally Posted by Maxx

nebur, sorry to say .. not that I'm aware of. Obviously something wasn't right. Did she know of your newbieness? You need to take some initiative and start things off. Most providers knowing you were a newbie would have started working with you a bit to get things going. But, time is all you pay for, anything else that happens is between 2 consenting adults. Keep trying, I'm sure you'll get a better response from another provider. Good luck and hobby safe!

Not a very good Bday present for myself.

[Pepper_Springfield]

Did u say anything that might have freaked her out?

[nebur]

Originally Posted by canyonman

No, it isn't. But you my friend have been taken advantage of but have to hand it to the lady that got $$ for sitting on her ass and talking for an hour. After about 10 minutes you should have dropped a hint... like shedding your clothes, I'm betting she would have followed suit.

Better luck next time...

No. The newbies that have seen her say that she is very "handsy". I figured that would make it easier. I wrong.

[nebur]

Originally Posted by Pepper_Springfield

Did u say anything that might have freaked her out?

You mean like "hello". I was kind and respectful.

[Mature Companion]

I'm a woman and I'm going to give you my opinion.

Your new. She's not. You put down your hard earned cash and did NOT get catered to as intended to happen between two adults, in this lifestyle. You got played. Plain and simple and not in a good way.
Don't let a providers impressive reviews and all her followers keep you from posting a review of YOUR experience.
And if they label you a troublemaker for being honest. Then so be it. Your not here to please them! Your here to enjoy being pleased!

This adult hobby is about * pleasurable adult interactions* between 2 people. It's not about paying to talk and leave with blue balls and never having enjoyed each other. Hell fucking no!

And happy birthday. Hope your able to make the best of it.

Originally Posted by nebur

Well I just came into this as a newbie and don't want to be listed as a troublemaker. Her reviews are IMPRESSIVE and the other hobbyist swear by her accomplishments.

[Precious_b]

WM, I can wholeheartedly agree with you on that!