Ladies with "less than perfect tummy areas", would you find it offensive if..

[Soonerman12]

Originally Posted by oLiViA88

Keep this in mind he wouldnt give a flying fuck if you said no because it would be your loss and not his.. He isnt the one getting paid you are so your dumb ass shouldn't even give a damn what he looks like... Your just getting offended because you are a big girl

I'm going to stay away from all of the other arguments because I actually like to be with a provider who is about business and encourage your attitude towards clients.

But.. I need to correct the last line. Please look at Liliana's pictures. She is the definition of petite and has one of the BEST body's on this site.

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Soonerman12

I'm going to stay away from all of the other arguments because I actually like to be with a provider who is about business and encourage your attitude towards clients.

I prefer her unbiased attitude as well in that sense.
Compatability is a term used so loosely in this industry... As providers I always thought we were obligated to do the best that we could to be "compatible" to everyone who wants to see us (to an extent). This is a "service" after all.

[Eccie Addict]

Obligated.... no.....

I would say that the closer you can be to yourself the easier the time you are with someone will flow. The best times I've had were with someone I had some communnication with. We got a feel for each other and enjoyed our time together.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Obligated.... no.....

I would say that the closer you can be to yourself the easier the time you are with someone will flow. The best times I've had were with someone I had some communnication with. We got a feel for each other and enjoyed our time together.

Exactly. It seems some may be too stupid to get it. It has nothing to do with being unprofessional, wanting to get married. It actually has more to do with understand who your client is and giving him the best experience. Smh.

xoxox,
Zarah

[John Peace]

I think what we need to do is step back for a second and stop attacking each other.

For starters, Liliana doesn't like coefficient's attitude. It comes off very rude. In an ideal world, she would like to see coefficient book with a woman who has a little pooch in her stomach, come up to her door, tell her to cover her stomach and get into an argument with her about how he doesn't give a damn if she has confidence or not. In an ideal world that's what Liliana is picturing and at that point, it would be of great justification, if the provider would slam the door in coefficient's face. Now, whether coefficient is bold or stupid enough to too let all his true feelings out in front of a provider in person is unknown and pure speculation.

Speaking of speculation, all olivia did was notice Liliana's post and interpreted it as something a typical fat girl would say. Because a lot of times, women who aren't fat aren't sensitive about being commented on because of weight. Olivia was quick to the gun and didn't do her reseach that Liliana was indeed petite. I think Olivia owes Liliana an apology.

As far as compatitbility, yes Shayla has a good point. It's not always easily gauged by text read on a message board. For centuries, men and women have slept with each other despite the fact that the opposite sex may hold less than flattering opinions about their partner, someone their partner admires, their partners beliefs, political or religious views, etc..

That's just the way life is. There's plenty black females in this business that have seen white clients who simply have a "slave masters" complex and get off on dominating the black woman the way he feels his anscestors may have done it. If he's smart enough to hold his tongue and mask his feelings, the black provider would never know and just see him as a sweet southern gentleman. He may have an alternate handle on another messageboard where he spews off all types of racial banter.

Forums and societies like these are built upon fantasies and illusions. For starters, hardly anyone here is going by a real name or real information is easily accessible. Enjoy each other and be as safe as possible.

At the end of the day, let's all enjoy each other. Let's keep the tension down. Let's be accountable for our mistakes and apologize to those that we owe one to.

Have a good night.

[Liliana]

Thank you for the kind words everyone. Olivia, I agree with the fact that I may be losing business by my thought process, however Zarah and I are similar in the fact that we'd like to be able to have a semi-intellectual conversation with the people we interact with. It's just a difference in how business is run. I've nothing against you, we just see things differently is all. [Besides, for me intelligence is a huge turn on. I love conversation.]

Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Olivia, perhaps you should actually meet the person you are calling a big girl. I had the opportunity to meet and talk with her this past week and I can assure you that she is anything but a "big girl". Petite is much more accurate.

Originally Posted by ZarahAdams

And she seems very well "put together".

xoxox,
Zarah

Originally Posted by Soonerman12

But.. I need to correct the last line. Please look at Liliana's pictures. She is the definition of petite and has one of the BEST body's on this site.

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by Liliana

Thank you for the kind words everyone. Olivia, I agree with the fact that I may be losing business by my thought process, whoever Zarah and I are similar in the fact that we'd like to be able to have a semi-intellectual conversation with the people we interact with. It's just a difference in how business is run. I've nothing against you, we just see things differently is all. [Besides, for me intelligence is a huge turn on. I love conversation.]

Exactly.

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Obligated.... no.....

I would say that the closer you can be to yourself the easier the time you are with someone will flow. The best times I've had were with someone I had some communnication with. We got a feel for each other and enjoyed our time together.

I'll agree with that. Conversations allows you to explore each other's character and not just body which I think is nice and often refreshing and enjoyable.
However, some don't want the conversation or very minimal of it which is fine for me, too. I'm not going to turn them away because they don't want to "get to know me". For some, this is a big deal but for me it's not. I'm pretty flexible when it comes the social aspect of this hobby, I guess.

[Eccie Addict]

I can understand that but you are not "obligated" by any means. If you were then you'd have to see everyone, even the ones you weren't comfortable with. That's just a bunch of crap.....

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I can understand that but you are not "obligated" by any means. If you were then you'd have to see everyone, even the ones you weren't comfortable with. That's just a bunch of crap.....

To an extent, we are obligated. If I'm having a bad day I can't just let it out on the client like I would a SO or a friend... If a provider doesn't feel obligated to make their client happy then there's something not quite right about that... We don't have to put up with BS that is unwarranted by any means (neither do most business's) but we do have to be more patient if we want repeat business or a good reputation.

And yes, we can say no to whoever we want without any reason, actaully. I don't personally do that... Then again, I haven't had any problems in the past so I'm not nearly as hesitant.

[Eccie Addict]

You are only obligated if you agree by making the appointment and going through with the session. But even then if someone arrives and you know instantly for whatever reason that it will not be in your best interest to go through with it then you are not obligated to go through with the session.

Yes this is a business but it is a business like no other and everyone runs their business the way they see fit. Some want to genuwinely enjoy themselves along with the client and some only care that their clients are happy even at the expense of themselves and that is their choice and I can respect that. I think that the ladies that are more themselves whether they are on here or with a client are more likely to never lose themselves as a person. I would rather a gal turn me away than feel obligated to go through with a session with me because she feels obligated to go through with it, but that's just me

[Naomi4u]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I would rather a gal turn me away than feel obligated to go through with a session with me because she feels obligated to go through with it, but that's just me

Thank you. And just FYI, When you are successful, you never feel obligated to do ANYTHING in this business. More interests will come in and regs will be there.

xoxo,
Z

[Shayla]

Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

You are only obligated if you agree by making the appointment and going through with the session. But even then if someone arrives and you know instantly for whatever reason that it will not be in your best interest to go through with it then you are not obligated to go through with the session.

Yes this is a business but it is a business like no other and everyone runs their business the way they see fit. Some want to genuwinely enjoy themselves along with the client and some only care that their clients are happy even at the expense of themselves and that is their choice and I can respect that. I think that the ladies that are more themselves whether they are on here or with a client are more likely to never lose themselves as a person. I would rather a gal turn me away than feel obligated to go through with a session with me because she feels obligated to go through with it, but that's just me

Whether you genuinely enjoy yourself or not, if you've taken his money you're obligated to fulfil a "fantasy" for that client. With any responsibility (or at least senese of it) comes obligation. Now, obviously it's better if they don't feel the obligation and it's just mutually enjoyable. Someone who likes their job hardly ever feels obligated to go to work but knows that there are obligations in order to remain stable. That's the only point I was trying to make.

[John Peace]

I think we walk a fine line with the "GFE" title and the inhernet sense of "companionship" we get from the providers. Especially when it comes to dialogue and discourse.

In America, to have a discussion for the most part is free. The ability to pick up the phone and chat to a friend about what's going on in your life shouldn't cost you a dime.

However, with some of these "full companion GFE" services you might find yourself as a client becoming attached to the provider. She, like a lock tight shrink does know your deepest and darkest secrets. You're uninhibited around her which is a plus.

You'd like to anjoy a night out with her where yall go out for drinks and chit chat till the moon comes up. But see, that's YMMV. Could she be making $$$ that night? Will you compensate her for her time? Are you really going to pay her.

As a man, you seriously got to evaluate your life. If you have to fork over more than a hundred bucks just for some platonic companionship then you need to work on getting female friends in the civie world b/c it's obvious that your friendship isn't worth her (the provider's) time.

And that's not 'GFE' b/c a girlfriend will listen to you and spend time with you. Guys, don't get carried away at that "GFE" title.

[Eccie Addict]

^Where did all that come from?

It's well stated and all true, just wondering where it came from....