Onedaddy, I'm not sure you are reading and understanding what all the others are trying to tell you. But it is all quite simple...
If you don't want to disclose certain info that a particular provider requires, then you just move on to the next lady. I have to agree if you arn't comfortable going through some screening, find a gal off bp who doesn't require much/any info from you.
If you want to screen the gal you are interested in -- YOU CAN!! Google her name, phone #, email address, look at her reviews and her website. Screening is important on both sides! We ask for info such as name, phone #, etc so we can do searches and see if you are a danger to our well being. We are not out to get you fellas. We too want to have a nice, comfortable, pleasurable experience and need to know you are not an axe murderer or LE.
I hope after 4 pages of responses you finally get it...