What qualifies someone as a Diamond?

[atlcomedy]

It is important to realize there is the whole other world that consists of the unpublished, informal reviews that are exchanged privately. Often they are as simple as a thumbs up or thumbs down with the implicit understanding that there is always a high degree of YMMV. For a lot of guys that is enough. I'm comfortable knowing that 1) she's as advertised 2) low drama/drama free 3) discreet & 4) genuinely wants the experience to be positive for me. Beyond that I'm fine with YMMV.

[Carys]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

It is important to realize there is the whole other world that consists of the unpublished, informal reviews that are exchanged privately. Often they are as simple as a thumbs up or thumbs down with the implicit understanding that there is always a high degree of YMMV. For a lot of guys that is enough. I'm comfortable knowing that 1) she's as advertised 2) low drama/drama free 3) discreet & 4) genuinely wants the experience to be positive for me. Beyond that I'm fine with YMMV.

Yes, this sounds about right to me...well said!

Being drama-free especially is as important as anything that may or may not happen BCD. Making your toes curl is one thing, making your head spin is another proposition entirely!

[atlcomedy]

Originally Posted by Carys

Making your toes curl is one thing, making your head spin is another proposition entirely!

Agree....no amount of toe curling is worth head spinning....& even if you don't get the toe curling you wanted, you chalk that up to experience and move on, but don't give me a headache (actually headache relief is good, though)

[pjorourke]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

It is important to realize there is the whole other world that consists of the unpublished, informal reviews that are exchanged privately. Often they are as simple as a thumbs up or thumbs down with the implicit understanding that there is always a high degree of YMMV. For a lot of guys that is enough. I'm comfortable knowing that 1) she's as advertised 2) low drama/drama free 3) discreet & 4) genuinely wants the experience to be positive for me. Beyond that I'm fine with YMMV.

Word!

[pjorourke]

Originally Posted by Angelina Adams

I have asked this same exact question to my high paying clients who spend thousands of dollars on services with me each month. They cite the same thing, in that without reviews, regardless of how charming, sexy, classy, hot I was, without reviews I would have no credibility in their eyes. These are powerful men (e.g. doctors, lawyers, stock-brokers, etc.) and they are my repeat clientele.

Originally Posted by Claudia Mara

But while it's wonderful that your clients rely on reviews and seem choosy men with high standards (always a good thing, of course), not all intelligent, discerning men go by reviews. I'm proof of that.

Both ladies are equally correct. Just like there is no one set of requirements to be either a "Diamond" or a "Tuxedo", there is no one proper way to market. I for one like variety. Especially in the bedroom.

[Claudia Mara]

Originally Posted by atlcomedy

It is important to realize there is the whole other world that consists of the unpublished, informal reviews that are exchanged privately. Often they are as simple as a thumbs up or thumbs down with the implicit understanding that there is always a high degree of YMMV. For a lot of guys that is enough. I'm comfortable knowing that 1) she's as advertised 2) low drama/drama free 3) discreet & 4) genuinely wants the experience to be positive for me. Beyond that I'm fine with YMMV.

I also agree, very well said.

I'll come clean here and be completely honest. When I'm with a man, I don't want to be thinking in my head about what kind of review he may or may not give me. I don't want to feel as though I'm being scrutinized and dissected. That is just one reason I don't like reviews for myself.

What I DO want to feel is pleasure. The pleasure of both giving and receiving. I can only speak for myself about this in particular, but if I'm concerned about how many stars I'll rate as or whatever, I just won't be able to focus on the moment. And for me, it is ALL about the moment and focusing on nothing but complete, unadulterated enjoyment of that moment with who you're with.

I prefer the tingle of the private knowledge of having had a mind-blowing time with someone to the public knowledge of details being shared with other people. I just don't feel it's anyone else's business. Luckily my gentlemen friends feel the same way. For them, discretion includes no reviews within their definition.

[Carys]

Originally Posted by Claudia Mara

I also agree, very well said.

I'll come clean here and be completely honest. When I'm with a man, I don't want to be thinking in my head about what kind of review he may or may not give me. I don't want to feel as though I'm being scrutinized and dissected. That is just one reason I don't like reviews for myself.

What I DO want to feel is pleasure. The pleasure of both giving and receiving. I can only speak for myself about this in particular, but if I'm concerned about how many stars I'll rate as or whatever, I just won't be able to focus on the moment. And for me, it is ALL about the moment and focusing on nothing but complete, unadulterated enjoyment of that moment with who you're with.

I prefer the tingle of the private knowledge of having had a mind-blowing time with someone to the public knowledge of details being shared with other people. I just don't feel it's anyone else's business. Luckily my gentlemen friends feel the same way. For them, discretion includes no reviews within their definition.

I knew there was a reason I liked you.

Yes, it really is all about the moment and just giving in to pleasure completely. I also find that difficult if I feel I am being "graded".

[pjorourke]

How about if I grade on a curve.

[Cumandgitit]

Originally Posted by Lauren Summerhill

I like this question: Charm, good manners, good taste. It's the little things that matter. How wonderful to share an evening with a man whose eyes can make you feel beautiful. It's nice to feel like he's genuinely attracted, not like you're there for entertainment. The ability to relax into your own skin and enjoy the erotic journey without feeling pressure to "perform".


Ever have one of those nights where you're so glad to be alone again, he doesn't take off the tux, she hikes up the evening gown, and you take what you want? Mmmmm.

Lauren,

Have we ever met and Cumandgitit did not remember? Honey, you have described ole Cumandgitit!!

Yew shld consider comin' dwn 2 th South + meetin' up with the old cuss so's he culd git his mitts on yah, woman!

xoxo,

C&G

The faint of heart have never f*@ked the upstairs maid!!

[discreetgent]

pity to join this discussion so late all the good one-liners seem to have been taken

in a tux and hiking up the gown, sounds like something worth trying.

[pjorourke]

Originally Posted by discreetgent

pity to join this discussion so late all the good one-liners seem to have been taken

Thats never stopped you before.

[Carrie Hillcrest]

Originally Posted by Claudia Mara

When I'm with a man, I don't want to be thinking in my head about what kind of review he may or may not give me. I don't want to feel as though I'm being scrutinized and dissected. That is just one reason I don't like reviews for myself. ... I prefer the tingle of the private knowledge of having had a mind-blowing time with someone to the public knowledge of details being shared with other people. I just don't feel it's anyone else's business. Luckily my gentlemen friends feel the same way. For them, discretion includes no reviews within their definition.

This is how I felt before I had reviews, when I had a no-review policy. I was concerned both that they would violate our mutual privacy and cause me to get caught up in worrying about whether he was going to write nice things or not.

But it hasn't been the case for me. When I'm on a date, I'm on a date. I'm right there, in the moment. Just as I'm not thinking about all the other concerns and demands of the "real world", I'm not worrying about if he's going to praise or diss me to the rest of the Internet. I don't think I could enjoy myself like that either!

The issue of whether reviews challenge discretion is harder for me to tackle. While I do prefer reviews that aren't, um, extra detailed, I know that a lot of websites won't accept reviews that don't have, uh, details, so I try to be flexible on that. Additionally, the gentlemen I see tend to write reviews with discretion in mind (if they write them at all, most don't), and focus more on my personality and demeanor rather than posting our trip itinerary. I have had to request what I felt were a few too personal details be omitted or edited out of reviews, but I've never felt scrutinized, violated, or dissected. Highly flattered, on the other hand...

Reviews have been good for me. They've opened a lot of doors and allowed me to meet people who would have otherwise hesitated to approach me.

[WickedHeather]

i think being a 'diamond' is something that you ARE, not something you have to brag about.

reviews, marketing plain and simple. they are nice to have if they are consistant but no matter what, they can't take the place of the 'real deal' and that is the only thing that matters...right then and there.

just my .02

[Gentleman]

As usual, Heather's .02 is worth a whole lot more than that. Well said.

[TexRich]

I agree with the ladies, I mean Diamonds.