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Fsn57 · 10-24-2018, 08:05 AM

Had an interesting experience the other day. I contacted a lady for an appointment about a week in advance. The night before, I check in with her to make sure we're still on. She says yes, but want to inform me that she requires a minimum of a $100 tip on top of her donation.

Why would anyone do that and not just make the donation $100 higher? My understanding of tips are they are not mandatory (and many times not expected). Tips are solely at the discretion of the tipper as to when to tip and how much to tip.

I don't know if other ladies do this, but if you do I'd prefer that you just increase your rates to include your minimum mandatory tip.

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Nikkilove91 · 10-24-2018, 08:16 AM

Hold up that isn't a tip that's a deposit. To hold a date wtf. I swear y'all need to stop with this poor me shit. Damn. And you damn well know that she is talking about a deposit not a tip. Tip is at the end of your date, deposit is before your date

Nikkilove91 · 10-24-2018, 08:18 AM

And let's see we take deposits to hold your date, also it prevents people from ncns or just not showing or rescheduling. Deposits are also another form of screening

Nikkilove91 · 10-24-2018, 08:19 AM

And honey it isnt about you or what you prefer. I would prefer not to get stood up after I pay for hotel room and gas to get there...does it happen Everytime no but it has happened to me enough

Fsn57 · 10-24-2018, 10:22 AM

Calm down Nikki, I know the difference between a tip and deposit, This is not a deposit, but a Tip. She didn't want the $100 before the date. She wanted included with the fee at the date. Also a deposit is typically part of the total fee (so if the total is $300 and you give a $50 deposit, the balance due is $250). This was an additional amount above her rate. It was an "expected minimum tip"...her words.

And don't give me that shit about "poor me". It wasn't the total amount I didn't like, it was the unexpected last minute expected tip that turned me off. I scheduled another appointment with a different provider for $150 more than her rate + tip, so it ain't the money.

Fsn57 · 10-24-2018, 10:58 AM

After re-reading my initial post, I can see how someone may infer that I was talking about a deposit. I should have been clearer in that she wasn't requesting the additional money the night before to hold the date. She expected it with her fee the next day.

All I'm saying is that if you're going to post rates, don't add last minute surprises. If everything is upfront, then everybody knows what to expect.

iDINE@Y · 10-24-2018, 01:12 PM

And understood it. I never thought you meant deposit nor did you mention it. And you did the right thing. Just walk away if it doesn't feel right. Just be glad you where told of the tip prior to meeting with her rather than having an uncomfortable situation as your were ending the date.

Fsn57 · 10-24-2018, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by iDINE@Y

... Just walk away if it doesn't feel right. Just be glad you where told of the tip prior to meeting with her rather than having an uncomfortable situation as your were ending the date.

Exactly!!
I've never met a lady that did that before, I hope no one else does.

Nikkilove91 · 10-24-2018, 01:30 PM

Oh ok my bad. I'm sorry. I did read it wrong. Yes that's fucked up what she did

BigDeal · 10-24-2018, 03:37 PM

Give a even bigger tip and tell her she went from some kind of tip to ZERO tip...thats crazy.
I would have just laughed!! And im a big tipper...ask Malwoody

Unique_Carpenter · 10-24-2018, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by BigDeal

Give a even bigger tip and tell her she went from some kind of tip to ZERO tip...thats crazy.
I would have just laughed!! And im a big tipper...ask Malwoody

We did ask him, and he just sadly shook his head.

SweetSuzanna · 10-26-2018, 10:52 AM

That is insane! I wonder how thats working for her?
Tips are nice though. Its the thought that counts

Fsn57 · 10-26-2018, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

... I wonder how thats working for her?...

I'm not sure, I only know of one client that canceled with her (me) due to that policy.

xomissmiab · 10-26-2018, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by iDINE@Y

And understood it. I never thought you meant deposit nor did you mention it. And you did the right thing. Just walk away if it doesn't feel right. Just be glad you where told of the tip prior to meeting with her rather than having an uncomfortable situation as your were ending the date.

Precisely 👌🏽

Im hoping that was her first and last attempt with trying that 😕

Savannah Moon · 10-26-2018, 01:21 PM

Tips are gratuity.
A sweet and gracious gesture by a client, guest at a restaurant, Heck I tip my hair artist AND My sons stylist at sports clips.
It is a gift.
I totally understand why you would cancel & presume she shall expect more cancellations.
No, it is not the norm and highly doubt that's going to be accepted by many clients around here... EVER.
Is she a member here? New member..
Touring.
Never have heard of that policy.