Is having a relationship hard as a provider?

[Hot to Trot Daphne]

Originally Posted by Sofia Simms

If you're honest about what you do, to an "average Joe" kinda guy, you wouldn't even be in a relationship...

And if you're in one where there's complete honesty & he sticks with you, then you mighta found yourself a gem!.... (or an asshole who wants to fuck all your provider friends)

So again, the answer would be yes! Shit, every relationship (provider or not) is hard anyways..

and behind door #3: Some people will swallow a lot of shit to have someone they want.

[Sofia Simms]

Originally Posted by Luxury Daphne

and behind door #3: Some people will swallow a lot of shit to have someone they want.

I know. The dumb shit people do. I personally believe some like having an SO usually just to say they have one and that shit is definitely over-rated! And sometimes just plain bull...

But hey, that's a thread for another day!

[SD7]

Originally Posted by Sofia Simms

Again with the mystery SO & all that? Really?

Despite all the comments on this site, things can work out in the right set of circumstances. I am a pretty successful businessman and not an ordinary "Joe." My SO had certain things that she wanted in a relationship as did I. Despite some obstacles, we have always worked things out.

Her pat life as it relates to the "BUSINESS" is not known to our neighbors, contacts, business associates and most relatives. She wants to keep it that way.

She likes to look at this and other sites to see what is going on for curiosity reasons.

[BatteriesNotIncluded]

Originally Posted by Sofia Simms

I know. The dumb shit people do. I personally believe some like having an SO usually just to say they have one and that shit is definitely over-rated! And sometimes just plain bull...

But hey, that's a thread for another day!

Start it... Sounds intriguing.

[Bugei]

This may open me up to some ugly replies, but here goes.

Out there, somewhere, is a good guy who will accept you without reservations.

Honesty is the key, and maybe the answer is looking at someone you've seen professionally. I'm not suggesting actively using your sessions to screen potential suitors, but if you find a guy who seems as interested in you as they are the sex without coming off as a creeper, then maybe there's a chance. Guys who go to providers recognized that sex and feelings need not be exclusively dependent upon each other. And a guy who you know sees providers has no place to pass any kind of judgement on you as a provider beyond how good you are in bed. Just make sure he's single.

Personally, if I were to meet a provider who I REALLY seemed to click with beyond the sex, then I would be more than open to the idea of going on a couple of no-sex dates to see if the non-physical attraction is real. From there it's a matter of mutual trust. My first wife wasn't a provider, but did have several other lovers while we were married that she openly let me know about so I knew she was safe, without going into the intimate details. I had the option of doing the same, but rarely felt the need. We were together 9 years, married 7, and when we split it was for other reasons and very amicable, infidelity never came up in the divorce, and we remain friends to this day.

I do the hobby thing now because I'm lonely and feel socially awkward, but occasionally feel the need to get laid. I'm a nice guy, fairly attractive, good career, just shy around women I'm attracted to. It's easier to relax and talk to a pretty woman when you're not afraid of making a misstep. And once you've been intimate with someone, it's easier to carry on other conversations.

[StinkyFingers]

Originally Posted by SD7

Despite all the comments on this site, things can work out in the right set of circumstances. I am a pretty successful businessman and not an ordinary "Joe." My SO had certain things that she wanted in a relationship as did I. Despite some obstacles, we have always worked things out.

Her pat life as it relates to the "BUSINESS" is not known to our neighbors, contacts, business associates and most relatives. She wants to keep it that way.

She likes to look at this and other sites to see what is going on for curiosity reasons.

Dude, who are you trying to bullshit. You used to post ad nauseum abt how your ex-wife found out that your now SO was a provider and how it distressed you that your SO was still providing. What's your fucking problem?

[jbravo_123]

Originally Posted by Bugei

This may open me up to some ugly replies, but here goes.

Out there, somewhere, is a good guy who will accept you without reservations.

Honesty is the key, and maybe the answer is looking at someone you've seen professionally. I'm not suggesting actively using your sessions to screen potential suitors, but if you find a guy who seems as interested in you as they are the sex without coming off as a creeper, then maybe there's a chance. Guys who go to providers recognized that sex and feelings need not be exclusively dependent upon each other. And a guy who you know sees providers has no place to pass any kind of judgement on you as a provider beyond how good you are in bed. Just make sure he's single.

Personally, if I were to meet a provider who I REALLY seemed to click with beyond the sex, then I would be more than open to the idea of going on a couple of no-sex dates to see if the non-physical attraction is real. From there it's a matter of mutual trust. My first wife wasn't a provider, but did have several other lovers while we were married that she openly let me know about so I knew she was safe, without going into the intimate details. I had the option of doing the same, but rarely felt the need. We were together 9 years, married 7, and when we split it was for other reasons and very amicable, infidelity never came up in the divorce, and we remain friends to this day.

I do the hobby thing now because I'm lonely and feel socially awkward, but occasionally feel the need to get laid. I'm a nice guy, fairly attractive, good career, just shy around women I'm attracted to. It's easier to relax and talk to a pretty woman when you're not afraid of making a misstep. And once you've been intimate with someone, it's easier to carry on other conversations.

Sounds like a reasonable and mature way to approach the topic. Of course, you'll probably get a lot of crap for it

[JohnnyYanks]

@ Bugei: Thanks for the thoughtful post.

[Beau Derierre]

Originally Posted by carkido45

Women just want guys to listen to them and not be judgmental .
Sensual Specialist is looking for in other words good company .
GET A DOG

Wow carkid, isn't a dog better known as ..Man's best friend...

[landon]

I don't believe you should disclose your a provider. I know of a married one who's husband does not know of her providing. Its better if the s/o does not know.

Keep it from your BF or husband. That way you will get income both from your spouse and clients who are excited to bang the other guys gf or wife.

[Luvagoodmassage]

Welcome back SS.

[Zhivago52]

Tell him you are a self employed "event planner". If all you want is someone to hang out with and not a relationship, I've enjoyed non-hobby / non-sex dates for movies, shows, etc., with my ATF that have been quite enjoyable. I know what she does and have no issues. Problem solved.

[Sofia Simms]

Originally Posted by oldman

Welcome back SS.

Thanks sweets. Glad to be back! 😘

[Guest072115]

Its very hard especially if he knows what you do trust I got a divorce in December .

[Guest072624]

Im assuming it would be.....but thats just my two cents.